Be sober, be vigilant; because your adversary the devil walks about like a roaring lion, seeking whom he may devour. -I Peter 5:8, NKJV When I speak of the demonic and cheating, I want to be clear. I do NOT believe or support the idea of a cheater being a mere victim of the demonic. … Continue reading “Yes, demonic.”
Happy New Year, 2025!
Happy New Year, 2025! I hope and pray this new year brings your peace and prosperity. May you experience the transformation of glory to glory in this coming year! This past year has been a big year for the Divorce Minister ministry. I launched my first in person support group writing the curriculum and learning … Continue reading “Happy New Year, 2025!”
Misplaced Concern
“I really hope he didn’t feel uncomfortable with anything,” says Cheater. “What about my comfort with how things are? Why are you more concerned about him than me, your husband?” says faithful spouse. Being a good host is one thing. Taking a particular guest’s opinion and comfort into consideration OVER your spouse’s is another thing. … Continue reading “Misplaced Concern”
The sun will shine on you, again!
Those who trust in the Lord are as secure as Mount Zion; they will not be defeated but will endure forever. -Psalm 125:1, NLT The sun will shine on you, again! I am convinced of this. The darkness of this awful season will not last forever–even if it feels otherwise right now. Things can and do get better sans … Continue reading “The sun will shine on you, again!”
Done to provoke
Just because your Cheater attends marriage counseling does NOT mean they really want to work on themselves and the marriage. They might be there to provoke you with a witness. Then they can label you crazy or angry as “justification” for their discard. Cheaters are not above using therapy or pastoral counseling to manage their … Continue reading “Done to provoke”
Cheater Rage Shield
If someone says, “I love God,” but hates a fellow believer, that person is a liar; for if we don’t love people we can see, how can we love God, whom we cannot see? -I John 4:20, NLT Cheater Rage Shield I wonder if you ever experienced your Cheater seeming to get angrier the less … Continue reading “Cheater Rage Shield”
So focused on your alleged faults
“Hypocrite! First get rid of the log in your own eye; then you will see well enough to deal with the speck in your friend’s eye.” -Matthew 7:5, NLT Cheaters are “good” at pointing the finger at the faithful spouse. They will dredge up the tiniest things and blow them up to catastrophic proportions to … Continue reading “So focused on your alleged faults”
Cheater Overflow
21 For from within, out of a person’s heart, come evil thoughts, sexual immorality, theft, murder, 22 adultery, greed, wickedness, deceit, lustful desires, envy, slander, pride, and foolishness. 23 All these vile things come from within; they are what defile you. -Mark 7:21-23, NLT Cheaters usually will try to point the finger at anyone other than themselves. The challenge … Continue reading “Cheater Overflow”
Merciful gift of divorce
I gave faithless Israel her certificate of divorce and sent her away because of all her adulteries. -Jeremiah 3:8, NIV I am grateful for the merciful gift of divorce. The mercy is for the faithful spouse (see Mt 19:9). They are set free from the destructive path the cheater is hell-bent to follow to their ultimate spiritual … Continue reading “Merciful gift of divorce”
Hard Holidays
Holidays can be hard! I just want to acknowledge that. This time of year can be difficult for those of us who are experiencing the traumatic ending of a marriage. They are seasons that bring the loses in focus. It is okay to be sad. It is okay to NOT be okay. Your feelings are … Continue reading “Hard Holidays”