“You’re praying for her, right?” asks Concerned Christian. “Actually, I decided to follow the Apostle Paul’s example regarding Alexander in 2 Timothy as that seems more applicable to my situation,” replies Faithful Spouse. ___ You need to know that Alexander,the jeweler, has done me great harm. May our Lord give him what he deserves for all … Continue reading “You are praying for her? Right?”
Judging as good
12 What business is it of mine to judge those outside the church? Are you not to judge those inside? 13 God will judge those outside. -I Corinthians 5:12-13a, NIV Theologically, I am not in the camp of “never” judge another “Christian.” This passage out of I Corinthians plainly exposes such a position as not proper among New … Continue reading “Judging as good”
Nearly Forty Percent!!!
“Almost 40% polled said they have had an extra-marital affair since beginning their ministry.” -Bill Mills & Craig Parro. Finishing Well In Life & Ministry. Leadership Resources International, 2008, pp 14. This statistic about pastors or ministry leaders is from 2002 and was put out by Bill Bright, Campus Crusade’s founder. So, the data is a … Continue reading “Nearly Forty Percent!!!”
Do not commit adultery is a command!
Thou shalt not commit adultery. -Exodus 20:14, KJV I wonder how this commandment has become second fiddle to couples’ counseling “wisdom” for so many pastors. So much time goes into the “why” of the cheating and little time is spent on pointing out the willful nature of the sin. In other words, pastors can be … Continue reading “Do not commit adultery is a command!”
Owning or being owned by sin
For we must all stand before Christ to be judged. We will each receive whatever we deserve for the good or evil we have done in this earthly body. -2 Corinthians 5:10, NLT “Why did you choose to sin?” This is the question for the cheater. Until they understand the answer to this, they cannot repent. The … Continue reading “Owning or being owned by sin”
Should have been enough!
Should have been enough! When the first confession of an “emotional affair” dropped, I realize now that I should have taken that VERY serious. I didn’t back then. Honestly, it just felt like more drama, and I probably was in a state of depression at the time. I wasn’t prepared to level consequences. It would … Continue reading “Should have been enough!”
Guarding Gratitude
Now the serpent was more crafty than any of the wild animals the Lord God had made. He said to the woman, “Did God really say, ‘You must not eat from any tree in the garden’?” – Genesis 3:1, NIV As a hospice chaplain*, I see many different sorts of people on a daily basis. Often times, my … Continue reading “Guarding Gratitude”
Tragedy and Gratitude
So the Lord blessed Job in the second half of his life even more than in the beginning. -Job 42:12a, NLT One of the biggest tragedies is the utter waste Cheaters create through their dastardly discard of us, faithful spouses. Just when we might be able to taste the fruit of sacrifice, Cheaters pull out the rug … Continue reading “Tragedy and Gratitude”
“Tell your family and friends to stop…”
“Tell your family and friends to stop telling [Cheater] to not divorce you,” says Cheater Supporter. My divorce happened because my Cheater chose it.* At the time, I was trying to dissuade her from what I considered an sinful divorce on her part. While I was still wishing to avoid divorce, a supporter of my … Continue reading ““Tell your family and friends to stop…””
All about “upper hand”
Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ. -Ephesians 5:21, NIV I am convinced some cheaters treat marriage issues as power struggles. They refuse to submit to their spouse as they find it offensive to actually “lose” in any way. To them, the idea of humbling themselves and truly repenting is repulsive. This is why … Continue reading “All about “upper hand””