A higher standard

This is a trustworthy saying: “If someone aspires to be a church leader, he desires an honorable position.” 2 So a church leader must be a man whose life is above reproach. He must be faithful to his wife. He must exercise self-control, live wisely, and have a good reputation. -I Timothy 3:1-2a, NLT Cheating disqualifies. Abusing … Continue reading “A higher standard”

Their Double Lives

Wounds from a friend can be trusted,     but an enemy multiplies kisses. -Proverbs 27:6, NIV Their Double Lives One of the major reasons why divorce is the best of bad options left to faithful spouses is the magnitude of the sins committed by Cheaters. Double lives denote a lifestyle of lying and deception that has … Continue reading “Their Double Lives”

Did your Cheater ask you how you would like to be served?

Did your Cheater ask you how you would like the divorce papers served? If they did, don’t be surprised that they ignore your answer and do the opposite. Of course, the question isn’t designed to take your wishes into account. Cheaters are simply trying to inflict greatest amount of pain (or they simply have grown … Continue reading “Did your Cheater ask you how you would like to be served?”

Nineveh and God’s Forgiveness

“The people of Nineveh will stand up against this generation on judgment day and condemn it, for they repented of their sins at the preaching of Jonah. Now someone greater than Jonah is here–but you refuse to repent.” -Matthew 12:41, NLT Jesus spoke these words to some religious folk in his day. Does repentance seem … Continue reading “Nineveh and God’s Forgiveness”

Hope Quote

I ran across this quote attributed to Augustine the other day as I was reading a book about dealing with serial bullies (Free Us From Bullying: Real Solutions Beyond Being Nice by Paul Coughlin). This quote struck me as very applicable to situations dealing with a cheater. These two things are good and “beautiful daughters” … Continue reading “Hope Quote”

Nuking the family

But a man who commits adultery has no sense;     whoever does so destroys himself. -Proverbs 6:32, NIV Cheaters nuke their own family. For the thrill of forbidden sex, these disordered characters are willing to sacrifice everything. They place their pleasure over the well-being of their spouse and children. What is important to them is their own … Continue reading “Nuking the family”

Divorce free from shame

“I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another woman commits adultery.” -Matthew 19:9, NIV I do not see a time limit set on these words. The exemption is there for anyone who has a spouse that engaged in sexually unfaithful behavior. That is what I see in … Continue reading “Divorce free from shame”

Rejected Ones Club

Jesus is “‘the stone you builders rejected,     which has become the cornerstone.’ Salvation is found in no one else, for there is no other name under heaven given to mankind by which we must be saved.” -Acts 4:11-12, NIV How is Jesus identified by the Apostle Peter on Pentecost? He is The Rejected One. This … Continue reading “Rejected Ones Club”

Heavy, heavy foolishness

Carrying a log across your shoulders while you’re hefting a boulder with your arms Is nothing compared to the burden of putting up with a fool. -Proverbs 27:3, MSG You are in this situation because your Cheater stole from you what did not belong to them to give away. Sadly, this does not stop Cheaters … Continue reading “Heavy, heavy foolishness”

Book Review: FORGIVENESS AFTER TRAUMA by Susannah Griffith

“In the Bible, lament takes up more space than teaching on forgiveness…. Don’t talk to me about forgiveness unless you’ve made space for me to lament the full story–the messy parts, the painful parts, the parts I wish I could forget, even the parts I’m grateful for. Don’t talk to me ab out forgiveness until … Continue reading “Book Review: FORGIVENESS AFTER TRAUMA by Susannah Griffith”