But I say, anyone who even looks at a woman with lust has already committed adultery with her in his heart. -Matthew 5:28, NLT I am convinced Cheaters will generally admit the “lesser” of their sins when caught. This means in an evangelical Christian world that they will admit an emotional affair before they admit … Continue reading “Emotional Affair Admissions”
Accept all criticism?
Is every criticism worth consuming? Do we always learn something about ourselves from a criticism? Short answer: No. If someone knows you tend to always “consume” or take to heart a criticism, this gives that individual incredible power over you. They are able to control you via their criticism. This is unhealthy and ungodly. Fearing … Continue reading “Accept all criticism?”
Cheaters denigrate
“She was being unfair. Jane knew just what a good soldier her husband was, but a woman who has deserted her man and stolen his fortune soon learns to denigrate his memory as a justification for her actions.” -Bernarnd Cornwell, Waterloo (#11) (Sharpe Book 20), New York, New York: Penguin Books, 1987, pp65. The above … Continue reading “Cheaters denigrate”
Missing Controlling Element
The other day I saw a reel where someone wrote into a show for relationship advice. They wanted to know what to do about responding (or not) to the fiancé of their ex-husband who wanted to know if he had a history of infidelity. The ex-husband was telling the writer that she shouldn’t respond to … Continue reading “Missing Controlling Element”
Higher Thoughts, Higher Ways
8 For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways, saith the Lord. 9 For as the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways, and my thoughts than your thoughts. -Isaiah 55:8-9, KJV If your god is so small that you fully understand him and his ways, … Continue reading “Higher Thoughts, Higher Ways”
Accountable
For we must all appear before the judgment seat of Christ, that each one may receive the things done in the body, according to what he has done, whether good or bad. -2 Corinthians 5:10, NKJV Accountability When cheaters talk about their marriages, they often point to their victim as the problem. The cheating is treated as a … Continue reading “Accountable”
So much for thanksgiving!
Giving thanks always for all things unto God and the Father in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ…. -Ephesians 5:20, KJV I believe gratitude is the secret to healthy living–spiritually speaking. When we choose to be grateful, we are choosing to see the many gifts in our lives and focus on real positives. Life … Continue reading “So much for thanksgiving!”
Building boats
Faith shows the reality of what we hope for; it is the evidence of things we cannot see. -Hebrews 11:1, NLT Colton Dixon’s “Build a Boat” is a song that a friend recently shared. I love the lyrics of this song. It is a song of faith. This is a song declaring faith. It is … Continue reading “Building boats”
Marriage is not a business deal.
You ask, “Why?” It is because the Lord is the witness between you and the wife of your youth. You have been unfaithful to her, though she is your partner, the wife of your marriage covenant. -Malachi 2:14, NIV Christian marriage is not a business deal. It is a solemn covenant relationship that involves God as a party. Some cheaters … Continue reading “Marriage is not a business deal.”
Cheater Rebelling Behavior
Did you ever feel like the big, bad parent with your cheater? I think sometimes some engage in cheating behavior as a way to try and resolve family issues (non-therapist speaking here). They did not feel safe to do that with their mother or father. So, the faithful spouse gets all their rebellion in its … Continue reading “Cheater Rebelling Behavior”