How many were deceived for a longer period of time because your cheater explicitly denied what he or she was doing? “I would never cheat on you.” “You know me better than that. There isn’t another man [or woman] involved.” “We need to focus on your problems. Don’t worry about me. I wouldn’t cheat on … Continue reading “Stuck via cheater denial”
Once a cheater…
Once a cheater, always a cheater. -Common Saying Do I believe this common saying? Yes and no… but mostly yes. Cheating is a character deep problem. The actual cheating is symptomatic of a soul rot that needs drastic attention by the cheater in order to deal with it before it leaves to spiritual terminality. Most … Continue reading “Once a cheater…”
Cannot win with a cheater
Often times, you cannot win with a cheater. They will always choose to treat you like you are the problem. Here’s a recently released country song that talks about that:
Taken for granted
Let your wife be a fountain of blessing for you. Rejoice in the wife of your youth. Proverbs 5:18, NLT Cheaters are so quick to forget or devalue what you bring to the marriage. In the discarding phase, they might treat you as worthless. Some might go as far as to claim you bring and … Continue reading “Taken for granted”
Caring for faithful spouses is a justice issue.
For the Lord is righteous, he loves justice…. -Psalm 11:7a, NIV Caring for faithful spouses is a justice issue, in my opinion. I know many issues in this world are related to the imbalance of justice. Adultery and adultery victims are not the only ones suffering from a world run through with injustice. Yet they are suffering injustices. … Continue reading “Caring for faithful spouses is a justice issue.”
Bad marriages cause infidelity is a lie.
“For out of the heart come evil thoughts—murder, adultery, sexual immorality, theft, false testimony, slander. These are what defile a person….” -Matthew 15:19-20a, NIV Bad marriages cause infidelity = Lie! When Jesus talks here about sexual immorality and adultery, I do not see any long explanation about the sad state of the culture around … Continue reading “Bad marriages cause infidelity is a lie.”
Cheater bragging
Oh, the joys of those who do not follow the advice of the wicked, or stand around with sinners, or join in with mockers. -Psalm 1:1, NLT A couple of days ago, I ran across a short video where a young woman was talking about cheating. She claimed that women don’t cheat on good men. … Continue reading “Cheater bragging”
Growing Gratitude
Look at the birds of the air, for they neither sow nor reap nor gather into barns; yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not of more value than they? -Matthew 6:26, NKJV The discipline of gratitude is the secret to an abundant life. Of this, I am convinced. Grateful people do not live … Continue reading “Growing Gratitude”
Interesting Stuck Phenomenon
18 Remember ye not the former things, neither consider the things of old. 19 Behold, I will do a new thing; now it shall spring forth; shall ye not know it? I will even make a way in the wilderness, and rivers in the desert. -Isaiah 43:18-19, KJV Discovering cheating can launch one into a season of … Continue reading “Interesting Stuck Phenomenon”
Could’ve stayed stuck
In his mercy, God knew I probably would have held onto my first marriage well beyond what was good for me. So, my ex filed on me, and I decided fighting the divorce was not worth it. I was not going to fight against a divorce that a cheater was seeking. That was her choice–yet … Continue reading “Could’ve stayed stuck”