“It doesn’t matter what she did. Let’s talk about YOUR sins.” – Cheater Apologist This is what a religious a-hole says. Do not waste any more time with them. They are NOT your friend! A true friend would NEVER be dismissive of their friend being traumatized by another. They would prioritize their friend’s feelings and … Continue reading “Talk about Your sin?”
Grateful for life
But he was pierced for our transgressions, he was crushed for our iniquities; the punishment that brought us peace was on him, and by his wounds we are healed. -Isaiah 53:5, NIV Life is precious and short. Please do not waste any more upon someone who would treat you with contempt. They do not deserve such … Continue reading “Grateful for life”
Blog Paused – While DM Gets Healthy
Taking a break from posting while I attend to my health. I am progressing but need time to focus on getting better. -DM
Cheater-Speak: “I wasn’t happy for a long time….”
“I wasn’t happy for a long time (so, I cheated),” says Cheater. Thou shalt not commit adultery. -Exodus 20:14, KJV I think the unhappiness excuse is one of the worst ones given by cheaters. Your spouse does not have the ability to control how you feel. That is work you need to do on your … Continue reading “Cheater-Speak: “I wasn’t happy for a long time….””
Aghast at own behavior!
For I know my transgressions, and my sin is always before me. -Psalm 51:3, NIV Aghast at own behavior! A cheater without this response to their own behavior is a cheater who is not really sorry or repentant. They ought to be horrified at what they did to their spouse. Sadly, most are not. In … Continue reading “Aghast at own behavior!”
Colluding in your harm!
I will search for the lost and bring back the strays. I will bind up the injured and strengthen the weak, but the sleek and the strong I will destroy. I will shepherd the flock with justice. -Ezekiel 34:16, NIV Were you the last one to find out? They told their close “friends.” When they … Continue reading “Colluding in your harm!”
Hated Scripture
Judah has been unfaithful. A detestable thing has been committed in Israel and in Jerusalem: Judah has desecrated the sanctuary the Lord loves by marrying women who worship a foreign god. -Malachi 2:11, NIV My (now) ex-wife hated this passage from Scripture. Looking back, I can see that was a neon sign about her cheating. … Continue reading “Hated Scripture”
God’s will WILL be done!
“As soon as you hear the sound of marching in the tops of the poplar trees, move quickly, because that will mean the Lord has gone out in front of you to strike the Philistine army.” -2 Samuel 5:24, NIV When God has plans for you, He goes before you as He did for King David in this … Continue reading “God’s will WILL be done!”
Get off the merry go round!
Anyone recognize the following cycle? Cheat. Cheater says, “It was a ‘cry for help.’ [Insert favorite blame directed at faithful spouse].” Cheat, again. Cheater says, “Our marriage problems have nothing to do with [affair partner]. You know that you [insert favorite blame directed at faithful spouse].” Continues cheating. This cycle is nothing new. Cheaters do … Continue reading “Get off the merry go round!”
“Stuff happens” response
“My ex-wife blew up our marriage by cheating, and then I had to go through an ecclesiastical trial with my denomination to keep my license,” says faithful spouse. “Don’t they realize stuff happens,” says well-meaning friend. The “stuff happens” response to cheating is irksome to me. When a faithful spouse discloses that they were cheated … Continue reading ““Stuff happens” response”