Infidelity abuse is rarely the only abuse faithful spouses endure from their cheaters. Financial abuse usually is present in these situations as well. Some cheaters leverage their financial power to inflict harm upon their partners. This might come in the form of cutting them off from money needed to cover basic bills, and it might … Continue reading “Financial Abuse Discovery”
Stop Digging!
“Forget the former things; do not dwell on the past. See, I am doing a new thing!” -Isaiah 43:18-19a, NIV Sometimes ruminating on the past just inflicts more suffering. Not doing this is easier said than done, of course. We do need space to tell our stories plus acknowledge what happened actually happened. That is … Continue reading “Stop Digging!”
Not to worry
“Look at all the birds—do you think they worry about their existence? They don’t plant or reap or store up food, yet your heavenly Father provides them each with food. Aren’t you much more valuable to your Father than they?” -Matthew 6:26a, TPT Financial worry was a really close companion during the end of … Continue reading “Not to worry”
Choosing to choose daily
‘”Since they are no longer two but one, let no one split apart what God has joined together.’” -Matthew 19:6, NLT Today, I was at a conference where the speaker, Steve Backlund, said something about marriage and making decisions. He stated that the marriage vows really say, “I’m going to keep choosing you.” I totally … Continue reading “Choosing to choose daily”
Holding tightly to hope
… and character strengthens our confident hope of salvation. And this hope will not lead to disappointment. -Romans 5:4b-5a, NLT Sometimes, it is hard to hope. That makes sense. This is especially so in light of the devastating losses that come with divorce from a cheater. In these seasons, I find it important to remember … Continue reading “Holding tightly to hope”
Unwise idea
“Why don’t you both take a break from each other?” -Clueless Counselor This is one of the dumbest pieces of advice given to a couple dealing with infidelity. The problems of an infidelity ravaged marriage are not solved by creating more distance and less accountability for the cheater. Both are the last things needed, actually. A break … Continue reading “Unwise idea”
A song to bring you to worship
Also I heard the voice of the Lord, saying, Whom shall I send, and who will go for us? Then said I, Here am I; send me. -Isaiah 6:8, KJV Recently, I came across a song that I found very encouraging as a song that helps usher me into His Presence. Here’s this new-ish song–“Walk … Continue reading “A song to bring you to worship”
My take on Other Man
Keep to a path far from her [adulteress], do not go near the door of her house, lest you lose your honor to others and your dignity to one who is cruel, lest strangers feast on your wealth and your toil enrich the house of another. -Proverbs 8-10, NIV How do I feel about the affair … Continue reading “My take on Other Man”
Not even partially your fault.
For we must all stand before Christ to be judged. We will each receive whatever we deserve for the good or evil we have done in this earthly body. – 2 Corinthians 5:10, NLT You are NOT responsible for your Cheater’s sins. Period. If you are like me, you will encounter all sort of people … Continue reading “Not even partially your fault.”
Cowardly Abdication of Pastoral Role
So I will rescue my flock, and they will no longer be abused. I will judge between one animal of the flock and another. -Ezekiel 34:22, NLT Cowardly Abdication of Pastoral Role Sadly, it is rare to find a pastor willing to hold a cheater to account for their abusive behavior. Far more common, you … Continue reading “Cowardly Abdication of Pastoral Role”