A few months back, I watched a video where the commentator talked about cheating and likened it to cake. I am riffing off that commentary today.
Affairs are like walking into the kitchen to find your Cheater holding two chocolate chip cookies….
You say, “You know that you aren’t supposed to be eating chocolate chip cookies. How did this happen?”
She says, “I don’t know how I ended up with these. It was a mistake. I just walked into here and poof! It happened.”
Now, I wouldn’t buy this story. Would you?
You can see the dirty kitchen around you. But the cookie cheater is claiming the cookies materialized out of nowhere.
You know how cookies are made. She had to follow a recipe and think ahead to have the proper ingredients to produce the cookies. The production of chocolate chip cookies requires a series of choices and decisions that lead to the end product (not unlike cheating).
Plus, who only bakes two chocolate chip cookies? Where are the others?!
Cheating requires a series of deliberate choices that do not “just happen.” It is no more a mistake resulting from lack of vigilance than baking cookies is.
Also, what you see is probably just the tip of the iceberg. Cheating requires deception and violation of trust. The Cheater is more likely than not involved in far more or far worse than what you see, unfortunately. It is rarely “just” two cookies.
