God is an honest judge. He is angry with the wicked every day.
-Psalm 7:11, NLT
Oddly enough, my anger was often directed to other bad actors in my divorce instead of the prime character–my (now) ex-wife.
Certainly, I had good reason to feel angry towards those others. It was actually healthy to feel this feeling as they trampled on and otherwise disrespected my boundaries.That said, the real problem was my cheater. They were simply “supporting cast members.”
I have subsequently worked through my feelings and issues of forgiveness towards these other characters. Sadly, most are simply God’s problem now and not mine as they demonstrated no remorse or repentance over what they did. That is fine. God will sort it, and I trust God.However, I just wanted to point out that sometimes the emotional energy that we have towards others is really better focused on the cheater. They are the ones who were (are) cheating, after all!