You need to know that Alexander,the jeweler, has done me great harm. May our Lord give him what he deserves for all he has done.
-2 Timothy 4:14, TPT
“Are you praying for her (him)?” asks a concerned Christian.
This is the “magic bullet” of spiritual healing. Maybe you heard of it? The idea is if you pray for those who have wronged you, then you won’t get “bitter” towards them.
The question really is about assessing your forgiveness journey.
I question the question.
Why make someone who has harmed us central to our spiritual journey by making them the focal point of our prayers?
Is it not better to hand them over once (or as many times as needed) to God and move onto our own business with God?
This is different than cursing them or dwelling upon ways to make them pay. The end state is one of indifference. They are no longer your problem but rather God’s.
I think that is the proper state to aspire to in dealing with cheaters or others who have wronged us deeply. This demonstrates forgiveness:
We no longer need something to happen to the unrepentant cheater in order to move on with our own lives. God will deal with them.
I know this flies in the face of conventional Christian “wisdom” on the matter. However, I do believe this is the proper stance.
Indifference and irrelevance to our daily life is the target. We live in peace and trust in God’s justice, goodness, and wisdom.
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*A version of this post ran previously.
“Indifference and irrelevance to our daily life is the target. We live in peace and trust in God’s justice, goodness, and wisdom.”
Once I was able to hand xh over to God (32 yr marriage) and trust HIM with my life, my real journey out of the trauma began. Thank you DM for helping me to realize that wisdom 6 years ago.
HE has never left me.
Amen and amen. So much “Christian” advice just isn’t.