Some people just cannot handle the souls of others well.
The conversation where a faithful spouse spills their grief and pain results in a shaming exercise where the Christian listener warns the faithful spouse about bitterness and God’s hatred of divorce.
I know I fell into the “oversharing trap” early in my marriage’s dissolution. Too many people knew my business. Some felt entitled to tell me how to live my life and pass judgement on my performance. It was a mess!
Looking back, I can see how I was flailing about for help to prevent the ending of my marriage.
The reality is the Cheater is the only person who could halt the end of the marriage in that scenario. Sadly, many prefer their life of sin over righteousness, though.
Now, I do think having some support from a small group of friends during this time is wise.
You just have to choose wisely. Sometimes, that means choosing wrong and then thinning the group. Sadly, there’s no formula for getting this right.
I would also encourage you to be extend compassion to yourself at this time. This is hard. If you overshare (and then regret it), that is to be expected. I think many, if not all, of us have done this at some point. Don’t beat yourself up over that!
