The Lord blessed the latter part of Job’s life more than the former part.
-Job 42:12, NIV
The Church needs to hear stories from divorced faithful spouses who went on to live fulfilling lives after the ending of their marriages.
These testimonies are needed for faithful spouses who are trapped in fear.
The fear of the spiritually abusive idea that life is over after divorce needs to be exposed for the lie it is.
God does bless faithful spouses after divorcing their cheater. I know as I am one of those who have experienced such incredible blessings!
The wonderful life I have today would not have been possible if I had remained married to my cheater. I would have missed out on some rich living, indeed.
Faithful spouses need to be reminded of this.
Far from being over, much of my life as I know it really began from the ash heap of my first marriage. It was a launching pad God has used to move me forward in my life and minister through me in ways impossible prior to this difficult experience.
Maybe your divorce is merely the launching pad for the next rich phase of life God has in store for you?
If it was for me, then it certainly can be for you, too!
*A version of this post ran previously.
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I am one who feels so blessed. I found CL and DM years after my D, as I was searching for info on NPDs, due to my ex blowing up his relationship with our son. Ex had been sick for a while and got real bad, and subsequently died, but before that happened my son and I just started talking and I opened up to him and answered his questions as honestly as I could about some of the abuse I suffered and had held tight because I was so humiliated in real time. I had only just recently opened up to my older brother. Unfortunately this was before internet and I didn’t have many resources to tell me to spill and get it out of my system.
My husband was the only one who knew because I thought if we were going to marry he had a right to know.
I wanted to talk to him before his dad died, because if he had any questions for his dad, I wanted his dad to be able to speak for himself. He never questioned his dad; he knew what I was telling him was true, so there was no point.
Anyway, as for after the D. I met and spent a long time dating a really nice man who was/is ten years older than I. I did my background checks as I know he did too. His wife just came to hi8m one day and said she didn’t want to be married anymore, wasn’t him it was her. As far as he knows there was not cheating, but he said he had known for a few years she was pulling away, but I know had she been willing he would have stayed married to her, as he did love her very much. But, like me he was not given that option. Long story short we married after dating five years, (engaged two of those years). We are celebrating 27 years this Nov.
Don’t let folks convince you you need to be totally “over it” to go on with your life. We all carry pain from our past once we get to a certain age, you can and most likely will have a wonderful life, not because of what happened to you but because of who you are. Yes be careful, take your time use the tools you have learned from experience etc.
Same thing with my best friend who was also married to a Police Officer cheater. She met a man ten years her senior and they are past 30 years now. She is one of the most faithful Christians I know. Her D was a few years before mine.
Oh and when you are 40, ten years older just doesn’t seem like that much. At least to me it didn’t, it still doesn’t.