“As obedient children, do not conform to the evil desires you had when you lived in ignorance. But just as he who called you is holy, so be holy in all you do; for it is written: ‘Be holy, because I am holy.'” – 1 Peter 1:14-16, NIV
Some might be disappointed that I do not write a blog dissecting all the pertinent texts that are usually used to discuss divorce and remarriage. I am not writing this to address every possible situation surrounding divorce. That is not why I started this blog.
Let me be clear: I am blogging about divorce AND adultery.
Think of it like a Venn diagram where two circles are labelled divorce and adultery respectively. I am interested in talking about where these two intersect. I have already explained why here: Why the Adultery Focus.
From time to time, I might comment or talk more about one of these subjects or the other. However, my heart is especially for those who have experienced the trauma of adultery. This is both a blog to support those traumatized by soul rape and to provide an evangelical pastoral voice/resource on the matters related to both adultery and divorce.
In addition, my heart is for holiness and healing. That is why I started this post with the passage from I Peter. Too often, that aspect is missed in the discussion of marriage, adultery, and divorce. I aim not to make that mistake here.
I speak bluntly about adulterers and adulteresses because I actually care about them as well. Scripture is clear about the destination of someone in adulterous sin aside from true repentance (I Cor 6:9-10). And that destination is not the Kingdom of God. We do no one any favors by not providing stern warnings about adultery and calling the adulterous to own their sinful choices fully so that they can turn from God’s wrath.
