“But I DID burn his evening meal,” says battered wife.
What happens when your Cheater does actually touch on a real complaint about you?
Most of us are rather introspective individuals as faithful spouses. We are probably painfully aware of our own faults and failures. So, it is especially disorienting in this time when your Cheater drills down on one or more of those.
Honestly, though, whether or not it is a true failure on your part does not matter.
Let’s do a thought experiment:
How would you approach this matter if the abuse was physical? The abuser beats up your friend “because she burned the evening meal.” Does it really matter whether or not she actually did this? I say, “No!”
The abuse must stop.
Cheaters are like batterers making excuses for abusing their victims. There is no excuse for this behavior. IT MUST STOP!
Do not go down the path of exploring the abuser’s excuses. It makes no difference whether their excuse touches on something completely false or fully true.
