Category: Trauma of adultery

Vulnerable In Grief

So be careful. If you are thinking, “Oh, I would never behave like that”—let this be a warning to you. For you too may fall into sin. But remember this—the wrong desires that come into your life aren’t anything new and different. Many others have faced exactly the same problems before you. And no temptation … Continue reading “Vulnerable In Grief”

What does forgiveness look like when your adulterous (ex) spouse is unrepentant?

Answering the mail today: “What does forgiveness (acceptance) look like when your adulterous spouse or ex-spouse is unrepentant?  (I’m speaking of this as a person divorced from a cheating ex-wife who never admitted the affair was wrong or asked for my forgiveness.. We have […] children in common, so aside from getting along for the … Continue reading “What does forgiveness look like when your adulterous (ex) spouse is unrepentant?”

The Affair As “A Cry For Help”

When tempted, no one should say, “God is tempting me.” For God cannot be tempted by evil, nor does he tempt anyone; but each person is tempted when they are dragged away by their own evil desire and enticed. Then, after desire has conceived, it gives birth to sin; and sin, when it is full-grown, gives … Continue reading “The Affair As “A Cry For Help””

Spiritual Abuse To Forbid Divorce

“Spiritual abuse occurs when our rightful spiritual freedom is taken away by people we regard as spiritual authorities.” –Taken from “Lesson 4: Healing of Spiritual Abuse,” School of Healing Prayer: Level II (workbook), Francis and Judith MacNutt Training Center, pp30. If divorce is not always sin as is clear in Scripture (e.g. Matthew 1:19, 5:32, 19:9, and … Continue reading “Spiritual Abuse To Forbid Divorce”

But I Want To Stay Married!

At this, Job got up and tore his robe and shaved his head. Then he fell to the ground in worship and said: “Naked I came from my mother’s womb,     and naked I will depart. The Lord gave and the Lord has taken away;     may the name of the Lord be praised.” -Job 1:20-21, NIV Shame … Continue reading “But I Want To Stay Married!”

When Hope Slips

31 “So then, forsake your worries! Why would you say, ‘What will we eat?’ or ‘What will we drink?’ or ‘What will we wear?’ 32 For that is what the unbelievers chase after. Doesn’t your heavenly Father already know the things your bodies require?” -Jesus in Matthew 6:31-32, TPT Are you a “champion” worrier like me? More than … Continue reading “When Hope Slips”

What To Do With The In-Laws?

Today’s question is a sticky one and depends on circumstances greatly. I do not claim to have all the answers, and these are really just my opinions on the matter. However, I will pass along some advice I received from a seasoned evangelical pastor early in the dissolution of my first marriage. He told me … Continue reading “What To Do With The In-Laws?”

Is Adultery Ever Justifiable?

Is adultery ever justifiable in the eyes of God? Put another way: How bad a husband/wife does one have to be to justify adultery? Faithful Spouse Bad: Fail to do the laundry. Consequence: Wife cheats on husband. Faithful Spouse Bad: Fail to make a six figure salary. Consequence: Wife cheats on husband. Faithful Spouse Bad: … Continue reading “Is Adultery Ever Justifiable?”

Swarming Locusts Do Not Win

“The threshing floors shall be full of grain;     the vats shall overflow with wine and oil. I will restore to you the years     that the swarming locust has eaten, the hopper, the destroyer, and the cutter,     my great army, which I sent among you. “You shall eat in plenty and be satisfied,     and praise the name … Continue reading “Swarming Locusts Do Not Win”