Adulterers/adulteresses and their apologists say the cruelest of things: “I still love you. It only happened once. We all make mistakes. Can’t we just pretend it didn’t happen?” “It was only just one slip up. Why can’t you get past it?” “He just had one bad night. Why are you so hung up on one … Continue reading “But he only cheated on you once…”
Category: Trauma of adultery
Gratitude As Fortitude
Now the serpent was more crafty than any other beast of the field that the Lord God had made. He said to the woman, “Did God actually say, ‘You shall not eat of any tree in the garden’?” – Genesis 3:1, ESV As a hospice chaplain, I see many different sorts of people on a daily basis. … Continue reading “Gratitude As Fortitude”
Dear Faithful Spouses, It’s NOT About You!
Dear faithful spouses, It’s not about you. The adultery does not reveal your flaws or failures. Not at all. It does not even tell a story about the status of your marriage prior to this treacherous sin. It’s not about you, faithful spouse. But it does speak volumes about the adulterous spouse’s heart. I have tackled this issue … Continue reading “Dear Faithful Spouses, It’s NOT About You!”
Uriah Was Never Blamed
Why did you despise the word of the Lord by doing what is evil in his eyes? You struck down Uriah the Hittite with the sword and took his wife to be your own. You killed him with the sword of the Ammonites…. Then David said to Nathan, “I have sinned against the Lord.” Nathan … Continue reading “Uriah Was Never Blamed”
Adultery and Church Discipline
“If your brother or sister sins, go and point out their fault, just between the two of you. If they listen to you, you have won them over. But if they will not listen, take one or two others along, so that ‘every matter may be established by the testimony of two or three witnesses.’ If they still … Continue reading “Adultery and Church Discipline”
No More Silence From the Pulpit On Adultery
If a man is found sleeping with another man’s wife, both the man who slept with her and the woman must die. You must purge the evil from Israel. – Deuteronomy 22:22, NIV “Silence in the face of evil is itself evil: God will not hold us guiltless. Not to speak is to speak. Not … Continue reading “No More Silence From the Pulpit On Adultery”
Ministering Music
When I was in the darkest valley of sorrow and pain, I found songs of truth to soothe my hurting soul. Some were contemporary songs. But many were old hymns filled with rich lyrics written by people who shared with the world the truth of Scripture hardened like a diamond by their own personal suffering. … Continue reading “Ministering Music”
Forgiving Adultery
Forgiveness is hard. But we are called to forgive our brother and sister. Jesus tells us to do so. And he tells us to do so from our hearts. In illustrating this point, Jesus gives us “The Parable of the Unmerciful Servant” in Matthew 18:21-35. Essentially, it is a story about how a servant owes … Continue reading “Forgiving Adultery”
Has God really forgiven him even when he is still in adultery?
David, thank you so much for your words. I had been programed for twenty years to believe that my stbxh was a Christian, honorable, wise, trustworthy and safe man. Then he left me out of the blue and a month later I found out he was having an affair and that he had been cheating with … Continue reading “Has God really forgiven him even when he is still in adultery?”
I hate the movie “Fireproof”
For a time is coming when people will no longer listen to sound and wholesome teaching. They will follow their own desires and will look for teachers who will tell them whatever their itching ears want to hear. – 2 Timothy 4:3, NLT About five years ago, a major marital craze went through the American, … Continue reading “I hate the movie “Fireproof””