Such teachings come through hypocritical liars, whose consciences have been seared as with a hot iron. -I Timothy 4:2, NIV Deadened Conscience What some find utterly astounding is how Cheaters do not seemed bothered by some of the cruelest behaviors towards their spouses. They are often shameless in their contempt for the spouse of their … Continue reading “Deadened Conscience”
Category: Trauma of adultery
Need Strong Warning!
“Nice” does not work with someone who has doubled down on destruction. If someone is about to run off a cliff, we don’t worry about saying a “harsh” word but rather–those who care–shout to get them to stop running. That is loving. Quietly objecting is not. Someone who is cheating is stuck on the short-term. … Continue reading “Need Strong Warning!”
Their Double Lives
Wounds from a friend can be trusted, but an enemy multiplies kisses. -Proverbs 27:6, NIV Their Double Lives One of the major reasons why divorce is the best of bad options left to faithful spouses is the magnitude of the sins committed by Cheaters. Double lives denote a lifestyle of lying and deception that has … Continue reading “Their Double Lives”
Nuking the family
But a man who commits adultery has no sense; whoever does so destroys himself. -Proverbs 6:32, NIV Cheaters nuke their own family. For the thrill of forbidden sex, these disordered characters are willing to sacrifice everything. They place their pleasure over the well-being of their spouse and children. What is important to them is their own … Continue reading “Nuking the family”
Divorce free from shame
“I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another woman commits adultery.” -Matthew 19:9, NIV I do not see a time limit set on these words. The exemption is there for anyone who has a spouse that engaged in sexually unfaithful behavior. That is what I see in … Continue reading “Divorce free from shame”
Rejected Ones Club
Jesus is “‘the stone you builders rejected, which has become the cornerstone.’ Salvation is found in no one else, for there is no other name under heaven given to mankind by which we must be saved.” -Acts 4:11-12, NIV How is Jesus identified by the Apostle Peter on Pentecost? He is The Rejected One. This … Continue reading “Rejected Ones Club”
Affair Partner not a marriage problem?!
“He has nothing to do with our marriage problems. You know that!” -Caught Cheater If your cheater is responding with some version of this, your marriage is over. The cheater is refusing to face the fact that adultery is truly a MAJOR marriage problem. You have nothing to work with here. The cheater is firmly … Continue reading “Affair Partner not a marriage problem?!”
Blind to the wreckage
“I would forgive anything. I want us to stay married,” says desperate faithful spouse. “But you would always hold it over my head,” responds heartless Cheater. The more I think about this sort of response from a cheater, the more I am struck by its cruelty: The Cheater could care less about the cost of … Continue reading “Blind to the wreckage”
Forgiveness or denial?
“For everyone practicing evil hates the light and does not come to the light, lest his deeds should be exposed.” – John 3:20, NKJV Silence about infidelity is the same thing as avoiding the light. It says the person does not what his or her wicked deeds exposed. They have not truly embraced repentance and … Continue reading “Forgiveness or denial?”
The Physical
“Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a person commits are outside the body, but whoever sins sexually, sins against their own body.” -I Corinthians 6:18, NIV Physical Affair vs Emotional Affair Both are cheating and awful for the faithful spouse. They both cause incredible damage to the to the point of destroying the very … Continue reading “The Physical”