Anyone here get labelled as “dangerous” and “angry” by your Cheater or her apologists? What I find curious about such labeling is how Cheaters know it is just that. They do not believe their actual press. When push comes to shove, Cheaters will call the person that they are “afraid of” to find true safety. … Continue reading “You’re such a threat, but…”
Category: Anger
Gets Angry!
In my distress I called upon the Lord, And cried out to my God; He heard my voice from His temple, And my cry came before Him, even to His ears. Then the earth shook and trembled; The foundations of the hills also quaked and were shaken, Because He was angry. -Psalm 18:6-7, NKJV My God gets … Continue reading “Gets Angry!”
So called “Advice”
After the Lord had said these things to Job, he said to Eliphaz the Temanite, “I am angry with you and your two friends, because you have not spoken the truth about me, as my servant Job has. -Job 42:7, NIV Ever had that “friend” who got furious with you because you did not do whatever they told … Continue reading “So called “Advice””
Forgiveness as act of trust
Trusting God with our hurts is hard. Forgiveness is about doing just that, though. It is allowing God be God in our situation. But forgiving our cheater is nearly impossible if we believe we care more about justice than God. Justice matters to God. He did not just give sin a pass. It isn’t cheap … Continue reading “Forgiveness as act of trust”
Misdirected Rage
The man said, “The woman you put here with me—she gave me some fruit from the tree, and I ate it.” -Genesis 3:12, NIV I’m convinced some–if not most–Cheaters were ticking time bombs. They had something in the deep past that they eventually attempted to “resolve” by cheating. The faithful spouse just happens to be … Continue reading “Misdirected Rage”
Hates “workers of iniquity?!”
5 The boastful shall not stand in Your sight; You hate all workers of iniquity. 6 You shall destroy those who speak falsehood; The Lord abhors the bloodthirsty and deceitful man. -Psalm 5:5-6, NKJV “Hate” is a strong word. Yet this is the word the Psalmist uses to describe how God feels about “ALL” who work wickedness. The picture in these verses … Continue reading “Hates “workers of iniquity?!””
Done to provoke
Just because your Cheater attends marriage counseling does NOT mean they really want to work on themselves and the marriage. They might be there to provoke you with a witness. Then they can label you crazy or angry as “justification” for their discard. Cheaters are not above using therapy or pastoral counseling to manage their … Continue reading “Done to provoke”
Cheater Rage Shield
If someone says, “I love God,” but hates a fellow believer, that person is a liar; for if we don’t love people we can see, how can we love God, whom we cannot see? -I John 4:20, NLT Cheater Rage Shield I wonder if you ever experienced your Cheater seeming to get angrier the less … Continue reading “Cheater Rage Shield”
Three Channels of Abuser TV
Years ago, Chump Lady ran a post about how abusers operate. It is a vulgar version of Abuser TV (see post here). I have found it extremely helpful in decoding behavior of abusers in general. This includes Cheaters as well as others like spiritual abusers. I find understanding the three channel cycle is helpful in … Continue reading “Three Channels of Abuser TV”
That pursuit advice is trash.
“I know she cheated. But what you need to do is pursue her like Christ did His Bride, the Church,” says naive Christian leader. The pursuit advice is trash. In my opinion, the last thing a narcissistic adulteress needs is more suitors fawning over her. She does not need to be treated as the prize … Continue reading “That pursuit advice is trash.”