What If I Want Her To Burn In Hell?

God is an honest judge. He is angry with the wicked every day. – Psalm 7:11, NLT What if I want him/her to burn in Hell… for what he/she did to me (and the kids)? Anger is an appropriate response to evil perpetrated against one. And I think God is understanding of this strong emotional … Continue reading “What If I Want Her To Burn In Hell?”

What’s Up With That, God?!

YOU gave me a vision, a dream. This dream had me promoted to a place of prominence, honor, and power. Then YOU allowed those closest to me to betray me forcing me to leave my home country against my will. What’s Up With That, God?! You established me eventually in this new country granting me … Continue reading “What’s Up With That, God?!”

The Oblivious Ones

So watch yourselves. “If your brother or sister sins against you, rebuke them; and if they repent, forgive them. – Luke 17:3, NIV If you have survived discovering infidelity and/or gone through divorce, you will inevitably encounter “well-meaning” but oblivious Christians. They may even be related to you by blood.  These are the sort of … Continue reading “The Oblivious Ones”

What if Hosea was an evangelical pastor today?

“Plead with your mother, plead—     for she is not my wife,     and I am not her husband— that she put away her whoring from her face,     and her adultery from between her breasts, … For their mother has played the whore;     she who conceived them has acted shamefully.” -Hosea 2:2, 5a, NRSV Join me in … Continue reading “What if Hosea was an evangelical pastor today?”

Pastors: “Please Insist On Faithful Spouses Being Told!”

“Therefore, if you are offering your gift at the altar and there remember that your brother or sister has something against you, leave your gift there in front of the altar. First go and be reconciled to them; then come and offer your gift.”  – Matthew 5:23-24, NIV A danger with a strong evangelical, Protestant … Continue reading “Pastors: “Please Insist On Faithful Spouses Being Told!””

Is the thirst for justice and fairness misguided?

“He replied to the one speaking for the rest, ‘Friend, I haven’t been unfair. We agreed on the wage of a dollar, didn’t we? So take it and go. I decided to give to the one who came last the same as you. Can’t I do what I want with my own money? Are you … Continue reading “Is the thirst for justice and fairness misguided?”

Twisted Theology–“This is God disciplining you!”

“My son, do not despise the chastening of the Lord, Nor be discouraged when you are rebuked by Him; For whom the Lord loves He chastens, And scourges every son whom He receives.” … Furthermore, we have had human fathers who corrected us, and we paid them respect. Shall we not much more readily be in … Continue reading “Twisted Theology–“This is God disciplining you!””

Others Judging Your Healing

“Judge not, that ye be not judged. For with what judgment ye judge, ye shall be judged: and with what measure ye mete, it shall be measured to you again.”  -Matthew 7:1-2, KJV A common annoyance I encounter–and suspect other faithful spouses encounter as well–are Christians giving their unsolicited assessment of my state of healing. “You … Continue reading “Others Judging Your Healing”

Mailbag: Conquering Anger

  The Lord is gracious, and full of compassion; slow to anger, and of great mercy. – Psalm 145:8, KJV Hi DM. I still have a lot of anger toward my mother-in-law for many of the same reasons you had for your father-in-law. She has enabled my stbx’s sin so much that even my children … Continue reading “Mailbag: Conquering Anger”