I didn’t have the words…

I didn’t have the words… …all I felt was incredible anger towards my (now) ex-Father-In-Law. That was my emotional state when I last encountered my xFIL. I did not have the words to articulate why I was so angry with him. My spirit screamed within me that this man was evil and had wronged me gravely. But … Continue reading “I didn’t have the words…”

Recognizing a Fake Apology

Then Saul admitted to Samuel, “Yes, I have sinned. I have disobeyed your instructions and the Lord’s command, for I was afraid of the people and did what they demanded. But now, please forgive my sin and come back with me so that I may worship the Lord.” -I Samuel 15:24-25, NLT (e.g. false apology) … Continue reading “Recognizing a Fake Apology”

We don’t need that sort of “care!”

If a pastor or Christian leader is unprepared to confront an adulterous spouse, they ought to have the decency to not bother picking at what they think is wrong in the faithful spouse. Sin inquests into suffering faithful spouses are anything but loving. Such are cold approaches to an excruciating experience. They offer judgment and condemnation when … Continue reading “We don’t need that sort of “care!””

Kandi Burruss’ Reads Adulteress’ Letter

Yesterday, Chump Lady sent me a link to the video clip below. It is a link from TV personality Steve Harvey’s website. Kandi Burruss is tackling a letter sent by a woman who is contemplating joining the same church as the faithful spouse she supplanted via adultery with her (now former) husband. Watch and listen … Continue reading “Kandi Burruss’ Reads Adulteress’ Letter”

I’m intolerant.

Yes, that is correct. My name is David, and I am intolerant. And I am not ashamed of this truth in the least. This intolerance presents no problems internally for me. In fact, I hope more people–and more pastors, especially–become as intolerant as I am. If only our churches were so intolerant! My hope is … Continue reading “I’m intolerant.”

Brother Standing Up For Anna–Josh Duggar’s Wife

“If we say that we have no sin, we deceive ourselves, and the truth is not in us. If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.” – I John 1:8-9, KJV Anna Duggar’s brother, Daniel Keller, apparently took exception to the quoting … Continue reading “Brother Standing Up For Anna–Josh Duggar’s Wife”

“I care about you…”

The words of the reckless pierce like swords,     but the tongue of the wise brings healing. -Proverbs 12:18, NIV   I care about you but not enough… …to end my friendship with the adulterous spouse until she repents. My thoughts: “Sorry, your concern for me sounds skin deep. Scripture is clear that a person who … Continue reading ““I care about you…””

“You Need To Forgive Your Adulterous Spouse.”

  “You sound angry. I really think you need to forgive your spouse for cheating on you. Forgive and forget. After all, Jesus did that for you.” -Christian “Friend” to Faithful Spouse The most hurtful pieces of advice usually have a hint of truth as does this one. We do need to forgive our spouses … Continue reading ““You Need To Forgive Your Adulterous Spouse.””

Do Cheaters Ever Really Win?

And what do you benefit if you gain the whole world but lose your own soul? Is anything worth more than your soul? – Matthew 16:26, NLT During the time of my first marriage’s implosion, I was going through a rough patch in my life. I was working as a barista in a local coffee … Continue reading “Do Cheaters Ever Really Win?”