Here’s a prayer I wrote for anyone struggling letting go of anger towards a cheater and their apologist(s). This prayer serves as a reminder that we have a say in letting go of our anger, which is based on our trust in God’s character. In my experience, we have to practice choosing to let go over and … Continue reading “A prayer to help heal and forgive”
Category: Anger
Hosea Exception, NOT Rule!
When the Lord began to speak by Hosea, the Lord said to Hosea: “Go, take yourself a wife of harlotry And children of harlotry, For the land has committed great harlotry By departing from the Lord.” – Hosea 1:2, NKJV What strikes me as in the last post is how biblically educated men can miss how this was a very special call upon … Continue reading “Hosea Exception, NOT Rule!”
Hosea’s special life calling
When the Lord began to speak by Hosea, the Lord said to Hosea: “Go, take yourself a wife of harlotry And children of harlotry, For the land has committed great harlotry By departing from the Lord.” – Hosea 1:2, NKJV What strikes me as in the last post is how biblically educated men can miss how this was a very special call upon … Continue reading “Hosea’s special life calling”
Did not really get angry with her
26 Be ye angry, and sin not: let not the sun go down upon your wrath: -Ephesians 4:26, KJV My anger was not really directed at my Cheater. It was mostly directed at individuals involved conspiring with her against me. These were individuals who claimed to be Christian while getting involved in destroying my marriage. At … Continue reading “Did not really get angry with her”
Raging, confident Cheater
A wise man fears and departs from evil, But a fool rages and is self-confident. -Proverbs 14:16, NKJV This proverb caught my eye today. I think it fits, sadly, many cheaters and others fully committed to their sin. They are angry when called on their folly while also confident in being “right.” This is not a new … Continue reading “Raging, confident Cheater”
Yes, they could. They did!
20 My companion attacks his friends; he violates his covenant. 21 His talk is smooth as butter, yet war is in his heart; his words are more soothing than oil, yet they are drawn swords. -Psalm 55:20-21, NIV The shock is real. You thought you were married to one person, and their behavior is revealing them to … Continue reading “Yes, they could. They did!”
Cheater Rage
If a wise person goes to court with a fool, the fool rages and scoffs, and there is no peace. -Proverbs 29:9, NIV Cheaters hate your boundaries. They despise accountability. They want what they want, and they want it NOW! I say this to remind you that their anger does NOT mean you are in … Continue reading “Cheater Rage”
Are you angry with the wicked, too?!
God is a just judge, And God is angry with the wicked every day. -Psalm 7:11, NKJV A common false teaching among Christians is one where anger is treated as sinful. This false teaching serves abusers. Abusers can appeal to this false teaching to manipulate situations and paint their victims as “sinful” for their anger. The question over why … Continue reading “Are you angry with the wicked, too?!”
Cheaters as provokers. Don’t give them the satisfaction.
A person without self-control is like a city with broken-down walls. -Proverbs 25:28, NLT For God will never give you the spirit of fear, but the Holy Spirit who gives you mighty power, love, and self-control. -2 Timothy 1:7, TPT Some cheaters thrive off of provoking the faithful spouse to anger. I believe this. It … Continue reading “Cheaters as provokers. Don’t give them the satisfaction.”
Cheater-Speak: “I was afraid you would get angry…”
“I was afraid you would get angry. That is why I did not tell you [I was cheating on you].” -Cheater Isn’t it amazing how a Cheater can make their lying your fault? Now, we know their lies are their lies. However, Cheaters are adept at shifting blame. In this mind trick: The speaker is blaming their … Continue reading “Cheater-Speak: “I was afraid you would get angry…””