Carrying a log across your shoulders while you’re hefting a boulder with your arms Is nothing compared to the burden of putting up with a fool. -Proverbs 27:3, MSG You are in this situation because your Cheater stole from you what did not belong to them to give away. Sadly, this does not stop Cheaters … Continue reading “Heavy, heavy foolishness”
Category: Anger
Arrogance of (former) in-laws!
16 There are six things the Lord hates— no, seven things he detests: 17 haughty eyes, a lying tongue, hands that kill the innocent, 18 a heart that plots evil, feet that race to do wrong, 19 a false witness who pours out lies, a person who sows discord in a family. -Proverbs 6:16-19, NLT I wonder how many of us, … Continue reading “Arrogance of (former) in-laws!”
Gonna go with that?!
“I was going to tell you, but I thought you’d get angry,” says Cheater. “You’re really going to blame me for your cheating and lying?” asks Faithful Spouse. Really, gonna go with that?! The sad thing is that we–faithful spouses–often let Cheaters off the hook. Of course, you cannot get angry or then you confirm … Continue reading “Gonna go with that?!”
Deny them that power!
If you live without restraint and are unable to control your temper, you’re as helpless as a city with broken-down defenses, open to attack. -Proverbs 25:28, TPT Boy, this is a hard one to learn. Cheaters seemed skilled at needling their partner just where they are the most vulnerable. It might be over their “manhood” … Continue reading “Deny them that power!”
Anger leftovers
“Anger has something to tell us; it’s sometimes the gift that alerts us of wrong in the world.” -Susannah Griffith in Forgiveness After Trauma: A Path to Find Healing and Empowerment, Brazos Press, Grand Rapids, MI, 2024 (pp 71). I am currently reading this book on the topic of forgiveness and trauma. Thus far, it is … Continue reading “Anger leftovers”
God’s anger and love
But in my distress I cried out to the Lord; yes, I prayed to my God for help. He heard me from his sanctuary; my cry to him reached his ears. Then the earth quaked and trembled. The foundations of the mountains shook; they quaked because of his anger. -Psalm 18:6-7, NLT Without anger, I do … Continue reading “God’s anger and love”
Why an infidelity abuse support group? Cheated On Support Group Starts 9-9-24!
Why create an infidelity abuse survivor support group? When I went through my experience of divorce from my Cheater, nothing like this existed. The closest is a national Christian ministry for divorce situations in general. That syndicated ministry was helpful because of the excellent local leaders. Yet it was not exactly what I needed. Unique … Continue reading “Why an infidelity abuse support group? Cheated On Support Group Starts 9-9-24!”
A time for everything… including hate!
There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens: … a time to love and a time to hate, a time for war and a time for peace. -Ecclesiastes 3:1, 8, NIV Did you know the Bible tells us a time exists to hate? So, this means hate is not … Continue reading “A time for everything… including hate!”
Cheated On Support Group Coming!!!
Cheated On Support Group Starting Tuesday, May 7th! At Destiny Church, Rochester, MN I have decided that it is time to launch an in-person support group for faithful spouses and their supporters. This support group will start in Rochester (MN), and I will see what response I find from folks. If it goes well, I … Continue reading “Cheated On Support Group Coming!!!”
A prayer to help heal and forgive
Here’s a prayer I wrote for anyone struggling letting go of anger towards a cheater and their apologist(s). This prayer serves as a reminder that we have a say in letting go of our anger, which is based on our trust in God’s character. In my experience, we have to practice choosing to let go over and … Continue reading “A prayer to help heal and forgive”