Trusting God with our hurts is hard. Forgiveness is about doing just that, though. It is allowing God be God in our situation. But forgiving our cheater is nearly impossible if we believe we care more about justice than God. Justice matters to God. He did not just give sin a pass. It isn’t … Continue reading “Justice and forgiveness”
Category: Anger
Top 5 DM Posts of 2018
Top 5 Most Viewed Posts in 2018: The following posts garnered more than a thousand views each this past year. I have linked to each one with their title (just click on the title). And I have given a brief summary after each. Without further ado… 5. Kept It On to The End This is … Continue reading “Top 5 DM Posts of 2018”
Thought Experiment: What if Hosea was an evangelical pastor?
“Plead with your mother, plead— for she is not my wife, and I am not her husband— that she put away her whoring from her face, and her adultery from between her breasts, … For their mother has played the whore; she who conceived them has acted shamefully.” -Hosea 2:2, 5a, NRSV Join me in … Continue reading “Thought Experiment: What if Hosea was an evangelical pastor?”
ANGRIER THAN GOD YOUR GOOD FATHER?!
If you, then, though you are evil, know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your Father in heaven give good gifts to those who ask him! -Matthew 7:11, NIV Do we believe we must convince God to get Him to be angry at our cheater-abuser? I think so. In … Continue reading “ANGRIER THAN GOD YOUR GOOD FATHER?!”
God, Repentance, and Forgiveness
The Lord is not slow in keeping his promise, as some understand slowness. Instead he is patient with you, not wanting anyone to perish, but everyone to come to repentance. -2 Peter 3:9, NIV The implication of 2 Peter 3:9 is without repentance God does not forgive but allows the sinner to perish for their … Continue reading “God, Repentance, and Forgiveness”
Brothers and Sisters, Hate evil!
Ye that love the Lord, hate evil: he preserveth the souls of his saints; he delivereth them out of the hand of the wicked. – Psalm 97:10, KJV Do you love the Lord? The command here in the Psalms is rather clear: Hate evil! It is strong language. But this is what Scripture teaches us. … Continue reading “Brothers and Sisters, Hate evil!”
Lessons from WCC and fall of Hybels by Kyle Strobel and Jamin Goggin
In “How Willow Creek exposed our sins,” Kyle Strobel and Jamin Goggin suggest the mess at Willow Creek Church is a symptom of a much bigger problem in American evangelicalism. Strobel diagnoses the problem Willow Creek exposes as: The fundamental ailment of the evangelical church today is toxic power. Toxic power is anchored in prideful … Continue reading “Lessons from WCC and fall of Hybels by Kyle Strobel and Jamin Goggin”
Re-titling DM Book…
As I get edits back on my book manuscript, I have decided to change its title. When I started Divorce Minister, I created this blog ministry specifically to be a space where people could come to receive pastoral care from a pastor who could relate to the pain of infidelity discovery, abandonment, and divorce. I knew … Continue reading “Re-titling DM Book…”
When condemning is a good thing!
O Lord, shouldn’t I hate those who hate you? Shouldn’t I despise those who oppose you? Yes, I hate them with total hatred, for your enemies are my enemies. -Psalm 139:21-22, NLT When condemning is a good thing… Currently, most people will not have a problem condemning pedophilia. It is wrong, and talking about victims may evoke anger over … Continue reading “When condemning is a good thing!”
“I care for you” but…
The words of the reckless pierce like swords, but the tongue of the wise brings healing. -Proverbs 12:18, NIV I care about you BUT not enough… …to end my friendship with the adulterous spouse until she repents. My thoughts: “Sorry, your concern for me sounds skin deep. Scripture is clear that a person who … Continue reading ““I care for you” but…”