3 But the poor man had nothing, save one little ewe lamb, which he had bought and nourished up: and it grew up together with him, and with his children; it did eat of his own meat, and drank of his own cup, and lay in his bosom, and was unto him as a daughter. … Continue reading “Like losing a million bucks”
Category: Cheating
Keeping you stuck through denial
How many were deceived for a longer period of time because your cheater explicitly denied what he or she was doing? “I would never cheat on you.” “You know me better than that. There isn’t another man [woman] involved.” “We need to focus on your problems. Don’t worry about me. I wouldn’t cheat on you.” … Continue reading “Keeping you stuck through denial”
Those “friends” are not your friends!
If a man is found sleeping with another man’s wife, both must die. Purge that evil from Israel. -Deuteronomy 22:22, The Message (emphasis mine) Those “friends” One of the most difficult lessons I learned from discovering my first wife’s adultery and going through divorce is that it is okay–in fact, good–to have deal-breakers in friendships. … Continue reading “Those “friends” are not your friends!”
Best to move on from an unrepentant cheater
Today, I am simply posting a new song link. It reinforces the message of not fighting over a cheater. Such a person is most likely unrepentant, and nothing is left for a rebuild. Moving on is the best (of bad options) left. Here’s the song (“She Don’t Know” by Carrie Underwood):
NOT adultery, Clergy Sexual Abuse! Pastor accused of sexually abusing 16 year old.
An Indiana woman confronted her pastor over an inappropriate sexual relationship he had with her over two decades ago (story here). Some news outlets have runned the story as an affair or adultery* as the pastor initially admitted. However, that is a gross mischaracterization of the relationship. It obscures a very troubling and chilling aspect … Continue reading “NOT adultery, Clergy Sexual Abuse! Pastor accused of sexually abusing 16 year old.”
Dangerous Lie: Bad marriages cause infidelity.
“For out of the heart come evil thoughts—murder, adultery, sexual immorality, theft, false testimony, slander. These are what defile a person….” -Matthew 15:19-20a, NIV Bad marriages cause infidelity = Lie! When Jesus talks here about sexual immorality and adultery, I do not see any long explanation about the sad state of the culture around … Continue reading “Dangerous Lie: Bad marriages cause infidelity.”
If verifying the affairs(s) are over isn’t first priority…
When a Christian counselor or pastor chooses to treat the ending of the affair as a secondary issue, you can be assured they are not equipped to deal with the situation in a godly matter. Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the … Continue reading “If verifying the affairs(s) are over isn’t first priority…”
Might have wasted more years!
In his mercy, God knew I probably would have held onto my first marriage well beyond what was good for me. So, my ex filed on me, and I decided fighting the divorce was not worth it. I was not going to fight against a divorce that a cheater was seeking. That was her choice–yet … Continue reading “Might have wasted more years!”
When they are more concerned about how you found out…
Pro-Tip: When the cheater is more concerned about how you found out than the damaged they did to you, then you know they are not remorseful. This is the behavior of someone who is looking for the source of the leaked information. People ask such questions to continue their behavior. They are looking to plug … Continue reading “When they are more concerned about how you found out…”
Lying lifestyle spiritual problem for cheaters
19 And this is the condemnation, that light is come into the world, and men loved darkness rather than light, because their deeds were evil. 20 For every one that doeth evil hateth the light, neither cometh to the light, lest his deeds should be reproved. -John 3:19-20, KJV I have a theory about why some cheaters refuse to … Continue reading “Lying lifestyle spiritual problem for cheaters”