When a cheater is done with their spouse, they will treat the spouse as “The Problem.” This is a dangerous time for the faithful spouse because this is when they experience the full contempt of the cheater. Sadly, many pastors and other counselors egg the cheater to say more contemptuous things about the faithful spouse … Continue reading “You will always be treated as “The Problem.””
Category: Cheating
Strong medicine!
“Nice” does not work with someone who has doubled down on destruction. If someone is about to run off a cliff, we don’t worry about saying a “harsh” word but rather–those who care–shout to get them to stop running. That is loving. Quietly objecting is not. Someone who is cheating is stuck on the short-term. … Continue reading “Strong medicine!”
Pushing Soul Rape Victims Back To the Perpetrators
Do you not know that your bodies are members of Christ himself? Shall I then take the members of Christ and unite them with a prostitute? Never! Do you not know that he who unites himself with a prostitute is one with her in body? For it is said, “The two will become one flesh.” … Continue reading “Pushing Soul Rape Victims Back To the Perpetrators”
Example of the Ninevehites
“The people of Nineveh will stand up against this generation on judgment day and condemn it, for they repented of their sins at the preaching of Jonah. Now someone greater than Jonah is here–but you refuse to repent.” -Matthew 12:41, NLT Does repentance seem necessary for forgiveness (and salvation) according to these words from Jesus … Continue reading “Example of the Ninevehites”
No shame. Divorce is acceptable in dealing with marital, sexual immorality.
“I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another woman commits adultery.” -Matthew 19:9, NIV I do not see a time limit set on these words. The exemption is there for anyone who has a spouse that engaged in sexually unfaithful behavior. That is what I see in … Continue reading “No shame. Divorce is acceptable in dealing with marital, sexual immorality.”
A comment on social media
“I should have divorced him long ago,” writes Cheater. I was scrolling through my feed the other day, and I came across a comment by an admitted Cheater. She was casting herself as the victim in the comment. The post by a ministry talking about people who stayed stuck in an abusive marriage. What I … Continue reading “A comment on social media”
Cheater-Speak: “He has nothing to do with our marriage problems.”
“He has nothing to do with our marriage problems. You know that!” -Caught Cheater If your cheater is responding with some version of this, your marriage is over. The cheater is refusing to face the fact that adultery is truly a MAJOR marriage problem. You have nothing to work with here. The cheater is firmly … Continue reading “Cheater-Speak: “He has nothing to do with our marriage problems.””
Abusive use of God’s name!
Let no man say when he is tempted, I am tempted of God: for God cannot be tempted with evil, neither tempteth he any man: But every man is tempted, when he is drawn away of his own lust, and enticed. Then when lust hath conceived, it bringeth forth sin: and sin, when it is finished, bringeth … Continue reading “Abusive use of God’s name!”
Why does it seem Jesus gives us the power to NOT forgive?!
***My eBook is available still on the low price of only $4.99.*** “If you forgive anyone’s sins, their sins are forgiven; if you do not forgive them, they are not forgiven.” -John 20:23, NIV If refusing to forgive someone is always a sin, how do you make sense of these words attributed to Jesus? … Continue reading “Why does it seem Jesus gives us the power to NOT forgive?!”
Calling for forgiveness or denial?
“For everyone practicing evil hates the light and does not come to the light, lest his deeds should be exposed.” – John 3:20, NKJV Silence about infidelity is the same thing as avoiding the light. It says the person does not what his or her wicked deeds exposed. They have not truly embraced repentance and … Continue reading “Calling for forgiveness or denial?”