23 Search me, O God, and know my heart: try me, and know my thoughts: 24 And see if there be any wicked way in me, and lead me in the way everlasting. -Psalm 139:23-24, KJV A natural temptation is to focus on controlling or directing the cheater’s behavior. Please do your best to resist this temptation! … Continue reading “A natural temptation”
Category: Cheating
Integrity is worth a lot.
When Peter saw him [John], he asked, “Lord, what about him?” Jesus answered, “If I want him to remain alive until I return, what is that to you? You must follow me.” – John 21:21-22, NIV It is understandable. You have been soul raped and your world has been turned upside down by your partner’s selfish, … Continue reading “Integrity is worth a lot.”
The Cheater Scramble: “How did you find out?”
“How did you find out?” says incredulous, busted Cheater. When a cheater gets busted and their first impulse is to learn how you discovered them, you know that cheater is the opposite of repentant. Such is pride speaking–namely, they wrongly assumed that they could deceive you forever. Now, the cheater wants to know how they … Continue reading “The Cheater Scramble: “How did you find out?””
Sometimes you must condemn in order to be godly!
O Lord, shouldn’t I hate those who hate you? Shouldn’t I despise those who oppose you? Yes, I hate them with total hatred, for your enemies are my enemies. -Psalm 139:21-22, NLT When condemning is a good thing… Currently, most people will not have a problem condemning pedophilia. It is wrong, and talking about victims may evoke anger over … Continue reading “Sometimes you must condemn in order to be godly!”
Cheaters abusing through money power
Teach those who are rich in this world not to be proud and not to trust in their money, which is so unreliable. Their trust should be in God, who richly gives us all we need for our enjoyment. -I Timothy 6:17, NLT Cheaters can be cruel. Money is just one leverage point cheaters use … Continue reading “Cheaters abusing through money power”
Vowing “…for better, for worse; for richer, for poorer….”
For we must all stand before Christ to be judged. We will each receive whatever we deserve for the good or evil we have done in this earthly body. -2 Corinthians 5:10, NLT “…for better, for worse…” These are familiar parts of the wedding vows in a Christian wedding ceremony. But do we really believe … Continue reading “Vowing “…for better, for worse; for richer, for poorer….””
Curse that missed its mark!
Like a flitting sparrow, like a flying swallow, So a curse without cause shall not alight. -Proverbs 26:2, KJV May all who gloat over my distress be put to shame and confusion; may all who exalt themselves over me be clothed with shame and disgrace. -Psalm 35:26, NIV My former father-in-law acted in very entitled ways at … Continue reading “Curse that missed its mark!”
Delusional Cheaters
Thou shalt not commit adultery. -Exodus 20:14, KJV Cheaters are often self-deluded. They think that if they have justified their infidelity to themselves then it is justified. Nothing could be further from the truth. Nothing justifies committing adultery! God does not hand out exceptions to the Ten Commandments. That is not how this most basic … Continue reading “Delusional Cheaters”
Would have been 15 years today…
Today would have been our fifteenth wedding anniversary. The odd thing about grief is that it does not simply go away. It has a tendency to remind us of what was lost on anniversaries as if the spiritual fabric of our souls has scarred but never forgotten the wound. My anger over the injustices is … Continue reading “Would have been 15 years today…”
Disturbed people only see it as leverage
The wicked flee though no one pursues…. -Proverbs 28:1a, NIV Disturbed people only see a history of cheating as leverage in a marriage. They could care less how the cheating has damaged and harmed the faithful spouse. The bigger problem for them is that they fear the faithful spouse “forever” holding it “over the head” … Continue reading “Disturbed people only see it as leverage”