Grief lingers on long after forgiveness has put anger to bed. This is my experience now years removed from my divorce from a cheater. The anger is long gone. Yet I find myself feeling sad as I think of what was lost, tragically. I say tragically as it never had to happen. Yet God allows … Continue reading “Sadness remains”
Category: Cheating
PSA: They did NOT “have to” cheat on you! No matter what.
Public Service Announcement (PSA): They did NOT have to cheat on you! No matter what. They chose sin over godliness, and that is on them. Personally, I think this is the most tragic thing about marital infidelity. It is also one of the oldest of lies. The cheater did not have to go down … Continue reading “PSA: They did NOT “have to” cheat on you! No matter what.”
Evil toying cheaters
Some cheaters are acutely aware of the power they have over the faithful spouse. They understand that divorcing their spouse will mean the professional destruction of the faithful spouse. Plus, they may know that the faithful spouse is highly committed to working through even infidelity. With this knowledge, they toy with the faithful spouse taking … Continue reading “Evil toying cheaters”
I care about you, but not enough to…
The words of the reckless pierce like swords, but the tongue of the wise brings healing. -Proverbs 12:18, NIV I care about you BUT not enough… …to end my friendship with the adulterous spouse until she repents. My thoughts: “Sorry, your concern for me sounds skin deep. Scripture is clear that a person who … Continue reading “I care about you, but not enough to…”
Update on Ben and Julianna Zobrist divorce situation
“According to Ben’s brief, Julianna admitted in her deposition that she was ‘engaging in sexual relations with both husband and Pastor Yawn prior to husband’s leave of absence’ from the Cubs and continued ‘her sexual affair while the parties were attending marital counseling.’” -Phil Thompson, “5 things to know about the Ben and Julianna Zobrist … Continue reading “Update on Ben and Julianna Zobrist divorce situation”
Cheater-Speak: “But we were separated.”
“It is not adultery. We were living apart at the time,” says Cheater. A cheater trying to avoid responsibility for violating their marriage vows might attempt to use the “geography excuse.” This is the one where they excuse their behavior as “acceptable” since they were living apart from their spouse. They might even have started … Continue reading “Cheater-Speak: “But we were separated.””
Refutation in the Kingdom
…no weapon forged against you will prevail, and you will refute every tongue that accuses you. This is the heritage of the servants of the Lord… -Isaiah 54:17a, NIV I find this verse instructive about how we engage in spiritual warfare. We are not passive participants. God calls us to speak truth, which has the power to refute … Continue reading “Refutation in the Kingdom”
Redeeming the experience of being abused
“When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put the ways of childhood behind me.” -I Corinthians 13:11, NIV “Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me.” -Popular Saying God has given us … Continue reading “Redeeming the experience of being abused”
In the midst of mine enemies
4 Yea, though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil: for thou art with me; thy rod and thy staff they comfort me. 5 Thou preparest a table before me in the presence of mine enemies: thou anointest my head with oil; my cup runneth over. -Psalm 23:4-5, KJV … Continue reading “In the midst of mine enemies”
Book resource: WHEN NARCISSISM COMES TO CHURCH
I just finished a book on narcissism and Christianity. It was full of insights about how these disordered individuals operate in the church and how to address such individuals. The book is When Narcissism Comes to Church: Healing Your Community From Emotional and Spiritual Abuse by Chuck DeGroat. I wrote a post recently from a quote I … Continue reading “Book resource: WHEN NARCISSISM COMES TO CHURCH”