Category: Cheating

Not a kiss, but rather a final hug.

“Goodbye in her eyes” by Zac Brown Band It wasn’t a kiss. It was a hug. We had just finished our dentist appointments. She had forgotten that she had made joint appointments. I had already confronted her about the Other Man about two weeks prior. She was still lying about him and still denying adultery. … Continue reading “Not a kiss, but rather a final hug.”

Cheater-Speak: “You weren’t doing enough.”

“You weren’t pulling your weight in this family. So, I was all alone and overwhelmed with everything. That’s why I cheated,” says Cheater. The poor overwhelmed cheater was able to make space in her calendar to lie, steal, and risk the physical well-being of their spouse. Such a cheater is trying to illicit pity in … Continue reading “Cheater-Speak: “You weren’t doing enough.””

Yes, they DO get more vicious while cheating!

They demonstrate that God’s law is written in their hearts, for their own conscience and thoughts either accuse them or tell them they are doing right. -Romans 2:15, NLT Sometimes cheaters become crueler to their spouses when they are actively engaged in infidelity. They cheat and attend couples counseling where they tell the counselor or … Continue reading “Yes, they DO get more vicious while cheating!”

God knows “just the right time”

You see, at just the right time, when we were still powerless, Christ died for the ungodly. -Romans 5:6, NIV “At just the right time” I think we are conditioned as a species to think the “right time” is when we are able to “save ourselves.” We think that is when a partnership with God is appropriate. … Continue reading “God knows “just the right time””

Yeah, how dare we! Ha.

How dare we object to being humiliated by our cheater! How dare we object to our cheater dirty dancing with another partner! How dare we object to our cheater taking another (romantic) partner as their plus one! Cheaters treat faithful spouses as the unreasonable one. Ironically, they are the unreasonable ones in these scenarios. Cheaters act entitled … Continue reading “Yeah, how dare we! Ha.”

Zobrist Saga Continues With Dirty Dancing Allegations

“During the celebration [church retirement party for Yawn], Julianna and Pastor Yawn both got drunk and were described in the filings as ‘dancing “on” each other in a provocative way that was very embarrassing to Ben Zobrist, especially in front of their close church friends.’ The dad-of-three baseball player privately rebuked his wife for her … Continue reading “Zobrist Saga Continues With Dirty Dancing Allegations”

Cheater-Speak: “I’m afraid of him.”

“I’m afraid of him,” she–aka the cheater–says. This like a blank check that a female cheater can cash in at anytime for sympathy and support from pastors and therapists alike. Most do not bother to ask any followup questions as to why she is claiming such fear. If they do, they might get: “I’m afraid, because … Continue reading “Cheater-Speak: “I’m afraid of him.””

On expectations to be the “model” divorced spouse

“’I am innocent, but it makes no difference to me—     I despise my life.  Innocent or wicked, it is all the same to God.     That’s why I say, ‘He destroys both the blameless and the wicked.’” -Job 9:21-22, NLT Ever noticed the pressure among Christians to talk about “our part” when our marriages end in divorce–even … Continue reading “On expectations to be the “model” divorced spouse”

Haughty, naughty cheaters

As the Scriptures say, “God opposes the proud but gives grace to the humble.” -James 4:6b, NLT The spiritually fatal flaw of cheaters is their pride. They behave as if they know better than everyone, including God. Such individuals are beyond hope until they are humbled. Humility is essential for godliness. A cheater bereft of … Continue reading “Haughty, naughty cheaters”