Category: Cheating

What Ephesians 5:24 does NOT say about submissive wives!

Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything. -Ephesians 5:24, NIV What Ephesians 5:24 does NOT say! I did a post on a verse used against husbands (see here). This one is for the ladies–i.e. the faithful wives. Notice this verse and surrounding passage NEVER mentions divorce. Not … Continue reading “What Ephesians 5:24 does NOT say about submissive wives!”

Words empty of their real meaning

Woe unto them that call evil good, and good evil; that put darkness for light, and light for darkness; that put bitter for sweet, and sweet for bitter! – Isaiah 5:20, KJV Private Definitions of Cheaters I can remember my undergraduate philosophy professor telling us on multiple occasions how to deal with difficult argument situations. … Continue reading “Words empty of their real meaning”

Julianna Zobrist makes a statement re:Ben Zobrist’s accusations

Back story on today’s post: Former NBL star, Ben Zobrist filed a lawsuit against the alleged lover, former Pastor Brian Yawn, who Zobrist claimed was involved with his wife, Julianna. Apparently, Julianna Zobrist had something to “say” about the claims in that lawsuit and, more specifically, about her divorce from Ben Zobrist: “I am choosing … Continue reading “Julianna Zobrist makes a statement re:Ben Zobrist’s accusations”

Assume the cheater planned this evil!

17 “I have perfumed my bed With myrrh, aloes, and cinnamon. 18 Come, let us take our fill of love until morning; Let us delight ourselves with love. 19 For my husband is not at home; He has gone on a long journey….” -Proverbs 7:17-19, NKJV Unless your cheater told you the day of the “deed,” you can be … Continue reading “Assume the cheater planned this evil!”

Disbelief of others

For there is nothing hidden that will not be disclosed, and nothing concealed that will not be known or brought out into the open. -Luke 8:17, NIV Discovering infidelity is disorienting. What a faithful spouse needs are clear heads. What a faithful spouse does NOT need is someone feeding their disbelief over the cheating. An … Continue reading “Disbelief of others”

Validation. It is a precious gift!

Whether it is validation through evidence or validation from another human being who sees the real injustice and names it as such, validation is a precious gift. I truly believe such validation is necessary for healing from adultery and abandonment. We need to be seen. Our pain needs to matter to someone, which includes ourselves. … Continue reading “Validation. It is a precious gift!”

The sin of silence

Have nothing to do with the fruitless deeds of darkness, but rather expose them. -Ephesians 5:11, NIV If you know something, say something. It is that simple. We are commanded to expose the “deeds of darkness,” NOT to keep them hidden. Adultery definitely qualifies as such a dark deed. Imagine learning a “friend” knew for … Continue reading “The sin of silence”

You get to CHOOSE your victory narrative!

Instead of shame and dishonor,     you will enjoy a double share of honor. -Isaiah 61:7a, NLT Why would you choose to accept the lie-filled narrative from your cheater as your own narrative? Choose your own victory narrative! Remember: You are not the rejected spouse. RATHER, you are the FAITHFUL SPOUSE! You are not the morally … Continue reading “You get to CHOOSE your victory narrative!”