Adultery situation? You are dealing with EVIL!

When I was a child, I spake as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child: but when I became a man, I put away childish things. – I Corinthians 13:11, KJV It is past time the pastors and church leaders wake up and grow up. We live in a world … Continue reading “Adultery situation? You are dealing with EVIL!”

Cheaters have a warped view of reality

This is the verdict: Light has come into the world, but people loved darkness instead of light because their deeds were evil. -John 3:19, NIV The Warped World of Cheaters When you have trouble admitting truth, your grip with reality will become looser and looser. Along with that loosening grip, your world will become warped. This … Continue reading “Cheaters have a warped view of reality”

DARVO tactic of abusive cheaters

History merely repeats itself. It has all been done before. Nothing under the sun is truly new. -Ecclesiastes 1:9, NLT DARVO is a well-known psychological abuse tactic. It stands for Deny, Attack, and Reverse Victim Offender. Here is an article that explains it (link here). The pattern describes a person who denies the sin, attacks … Continue reading “DARVO tactic of abusive cheaters”

Eat bread, not rocks!

The devil said to him, “If you are the Son of God, tell this stone to become bread.” Jesus answered, “It is written: ‘Man shall not live on bread alone.’”  – Luke 4:3-4, NIV Even legitimate needs can be filled illicitly. Today’s verses come from the story of The Great Temptation. It was Jesus versus Satan. And … Continue reading “Eat bread, not rocks!”

Healing from those hypocrites

“Woe to you, teachers of the law and Pharisees, you hypocrites! You give a tenth of your spices—mint, dill and cumin. But you have neglected the more important matters of the law—justice, mercy and faithfulness. You should have practiced the latter, without neglecting the former.” -Matthew 23:23, NIV Healing from Religious Hypocrites A major learning curve for … Continue reading “Healing from those hypocrites”

Toppling the giant named “FEAR”

For God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power and of love and of a sound mind. – 2 Timothy 1:7, NKJV The fear of man brings a snare, But whoever trusts in the Lord shall be safe. – Proverbs 29:25, NKJV -Are you anxious? -Do you worry about what crazy thing … Continue reading “Toppling the giant named “FEAR””

The “justifying” lie must be torn down!

4 (For the weapons of our warfare are not carnal, but mighty through God to the pulling down of strong holds;) 5 Casting down imaginations, and every high thing that exalteth itself against the knowledge of God, and bringing into captivity every thought to the obedience of Christ…. -2 Corinthians 10:4-5, KJV Some of the stories … Continue reading “The “justifying” lie must be torn down!”

Your spouse was never meant to meet this need…

Free Marriage Advice: If you are looking to your spouse to prove that you are lovable, you are looking to the wrong person. When we look to humans to fill a God-shaped hole, we will always be disappointed. Humans were never intended to “fix” us. Only God can satisfy the deepest longings in our souls. … Continue reading “Your spouse was never meant to meet this need…”

PSA: If the cheater did not come clean on their own…

“Behold, I send you forth as sheep in the midst of wolves: be ye therefore wise as serpents, and harmless as doves.” -Matthew 10:16, KJV If a cheater did not come clean on their own, the chances of true repentance diminish greatly. I would warn you to be prepared for either anger over discovery or … Continue reading “PSA: If the cheater did not come clean on their own…”

PSA: Your ex does not get to dictate your beliefs. You get to choose!

“Everyone is entitled to his own opinion, but not to his own facts.” -Daniel Patrick Moynihan, American Politician Cheaters often forget that faithful spouses do not owe them agreement with their marriage ending narrative. This reality does not stop cheaters from expecting and demanding such agreement, though. Cheaters are perfectly fine pressuring a faithful partner (or ex) … Continue reading “PSA: Your ex does not get to dictate your beliefs. You get to choose!”