When I went through my divorce and the ecclesiastical trial to keep my license as a minister, I wished I had a pastor sharing the messages I shared in my book. I had some wonderful friends. (Some are pastors.) These true friends were helpful in my processing my losses and navigating those times. However, the … Continue reading “Why the book?”
Category: Demons and Spiritual Warfare
Cheater-speak: “I feel God wants me to hold our marriage like Abraham did Isaac.”
2 And he said, “Take now thy son, thine only son Isaac, whom thou lovest, and get thee into the land of Moriah; and offer him there for a burnt offering upon one of the mountains which I will tell thee of.” Genesis 22:2, KJV Cheaters are engaging in self-deception when they decide God is calling … Continue reading “Cheater-speak: “I feel God wants me to hold our marriage like Abraham did Isaac.””
A cheater version of “honesty”
“Well, I have learned that I have to be open and honest. You never … (fill-in the cheater’s pet accusation of faithful spouse).” Cheater to pastor/couple’s counselor Does this ring a bell for anyone? If it does, I submit it does as it is part of the demonic playbook to destroy faithful spouses. To be clear, I am … Continue reading “A cheater version of “honesty””
A Partnership Parable
Sometimes it is easier to understand basic morality if we frame a situation differently. We are creatures who are easily caught by our own self-justifications and own excuses. Here’s a modern day parable: John and Robert are life-long friends. Their friendship started in grade school when Robert stood up to another kid trying to take … Continue reading “A Partnership Parable”
Brutal Honesty
Let no corrupt word proceed out of your mouth, but what is good for necessary edification, that it may impart grace to the hearers. -Ephesians 4:29, NKJV Have you experienced victimization by the hands of those who claim they are “only telling you the truth?” -Maybe they even wanted you to applaud them for their courageous “brutal … Continue reading “Brutal Honesty”
Greatest Cheater Vice
And he gives grace generously. As the Scriptures say, “God opposes the proud but gives grace to the humble.” So humble yourselves before God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you. -James 4:6-7, NLT PRIDE… …is the greatest–and spiritually deadliest–cheater vice. Pride says, “I will never get caught.” Pride says, “I deserve to be ‘happy.’” … Continue reading “Greatest Cheater Vice”
Pastor Associated By Faithful Spouses
Preach the word; be prepared in season and out of season; correct, rebuke and encourage—with great patience and careful instruction. -2 Timothy 4:2, NIV To be helped, we need to be open to receiving. Maybe the Christian community turned on you when you decided to divorce your cheater or your cheater decided to divorce you? Maybe your cheater … Continue reading “Pastor Associated By Faithful Spouses”
Battling “Your” Thoughts
Casting down imaginations, and every high thing that exalteth itself against the knowledge of God, and bringing into captivity every thought to the obedience of Christ… -2 Corinthians 10:5, KJV The Enemy is in your head. He is whispering all sorts of lies to separate you from God. The Enemy wants you to believe you … Continue reading “Battling “Your” Thoughts”
Abusing God’s Name
Let no man say when he is tempted, I am tempted of God: for God cannot be tempted with evil, neither tempteth he any man: But every man is tempted, when he is drawn away of his own lust, and enticed. Then when lust hath conceived, it bringeth forth sin: and sin, when it is finished, bringeth … Continue reading “Abusing God’s Name”
Cheaters framing vice as virtue
Last night, Mrs. DM and I watched the movie “Downsizing” with actor, Matt Damon, starring. It is a futuristic movie about a world where you can opt to undergo an irreversible procedure shrinking you to a fraction of your true size and thereby enter a world where you money goes a long ways. ***SPOILER ALERT*** … Continue reading “Cheaters framing vice as virtue”