Not telling is simply lying by another name

“You belong to your father, the devil, and you want to carry out your father’s desires…When he lies, he speaks his native language, for he is a liar and the father of lies.” -John 8:44a,c, NIV “Not telling” (about the adulterous affair) is simply “lying” by another name. I think Satan has a heyday with … Continue reading “Not telling is simply lying by another name”

Demons are “believers,” too!

You believe that there is one God. Good! Even the demons believe that—and shudder… You see that a person is considered righteous by what they do and not by faith alone. -James 2:19, 24, NIV What if my Cheater claims to be a Christian?! They can claim that identity all they want. Demons believe in … Continue reading “Demons are “believers,” too!”

Truly, this is spiritual warfare!

Stay alert! Watch out for your great enemy, the devil. He prowls around like a roaring lion, looking for someone to devour. -I Peter 5:8, NLT When talking about infidelity, many fail to state an obvious spiritual truth: This is spiritual warfare! The Devil wants to devour Christians. I personally believe he is having great … Continue reading “Truly, this is spiritual warfare!”

Cheater-Speak: “She has nothing to do with us.”

“She (Affair Partner) has nothing to do with us,” says Cheater. Cheaters say this, and sadly, they believe it. They do not see how having an affair partner is a major problem for their marriage. In their minds, they have already believed the lie that they are entitled to this relationship. It has been–conveniently for … Continue reading “Cheater-Speak: “She has nothing to do with us.””

Triggered: “Open and honest”

“We need to have open and honest communication,” says Cheater. When I hear the phrase “open and honest,” I am slightly triggered. It sends me back to the conflict with my ex-wife as our marriage ended.  The words aren’t bad in and of themselves. Such a goal for communication is admirable. We want to be … Continue reading “Triggered: “Open and honest””

It burns, burns!

  Here is another thing you do. You cover the Lord’s altar with tears, weeping and groaning because he pays no attention to your offerings and doesn’t accept them with pleasure. -Malachi 2:13, NLT It burns, burns! Such is the response of some cheaters when they are confronted with Scripture calling out their sin. They behave … Continue reading “It burns, burns!”

Just because they say something…

Public Service Announcement: Just because a cheater says so… …does not make it so! Remember that you are hearing words coming from a proven liar. That is what all cheaters are: Proven Liars. When they say things about you and your marriage, you have to discount that with this fact about their deficient character. They … Continue reading “Just because they say something…”

Regarding Envy of Cheater Prosperity

There is something else meaningless that occurs on earth: the righteous who get what the wicked deserve, and the wicked who get what the righteous deserve. This too, I say, is meaningless.  -Ecclesiastes 8:14, NIV The observation of the wicked prospering while the righteous are punished is not a new one. That is what this … Continue reading “Regarding Envy of Cheater Prosperity”