Category: Demons and Spiritual Warfare

DM Processing Recent RNS Tullian Tchividjian Interview

On Thursday, an interview was published between Tullian Tchividjian and Jonathan Merritt on the Religious News Service. The interview is entitled, “Billy Graham’s grandson on his near suicide and whether he’s planning a comeback.” To begin, I want to be clear that I am glad TT did not die by suicide. Human life is a … Continue reading “DM Processing Recent RNS Tullian Tchividjian Interview”

The “Cry for Help” Manipulation

“Don’t you see it [the cheating] was a cry for help?! If only you had ____ (fill in favorite cheater grievance with faithful spouse) more, then I wouldn’t have cheated.” -Unfaithful spouse Using the “Cry for help” excuse for an affair–either emotional or physical–is manipulation pure and simple.  The cheater is using this label to … Continue reading “The “Cry for Help” Manipulation”

Dumb and Dangerous Advice

“Why don’t you both take a break from each other?” -Clueless Counselor This is one of the dumbness pieces of advice given to a couple dealing with infidelity. The problems of an infidelity ravaged marriage are not solved by creating more distance and less accountability for the cheater. Both are the last things needed, actually. A break is … Continue reading “Dumb and Dangerous Advice”

If blaming…cheaters ain’t there to reconcile!

And he said, “Who told you that you were naked? Have you eaten from the tree that I commanded you not to eat from?” The man said, “The woman you put here with me—she gave me some fruit from the tree, and I ate it.” -Genesis 3:11-12, NIV Just because a cheater goes to couple’s therapy … Continue reading “If blaming…cheaters ain’t there to reconcile!”

Cheaters will generally return to their “vomit.”

As a dog returns to its vomit,     so fools repeat their folly. -Proverbs 26:11, NIV Committing adultery is foolish, foolish behavior.  The Bible names it as such in Proverbs 5. And the general observation from chapter twenty-six is that fools repeat such folly. Maybe this does not happen always, but it does usually as this … Continue reading “Cheaters will generally return to their “vomit.””

Ungodly Counsel as Catnip to Cheaters

“Can’t you see?! You’ve divorced her in your heart.” -“Christian” Lay Counselor Such a statement is highly irresponsible. It is like waving catnip in front of a cheater. They are likely to take this statement and go forth to act as if they are truly not married (even though they are). A “Christian” leader trying to … Continue reading “Ungodly Counsel as Catnip to Cheaters”

Cheaters Are NOT Martyrs But Rather Aggressors!

And don’t you realize that if a man joins himself to a prostitute, he becomes one body with her? For the Scriptures say, “The two are united into one.” –I Corinthians 6:16, NLT Cheaters seem to enjoy playing the “martyr card.” They claim their spouse did not give them enough sex or emotional attention. “We … Continue reading “Cheaters Are NOT Martyrs But Rather Aggressors!”

“The Devil Made Me Do It” Excuse

….but each person is tempted when they are dragged away by their own evil desire and enticed. Then, after desire has conceived, it gives birth to sin; and sin, when it is full-grown, gives birth to death. -James 1:14-15, NIV (emphasis mine) James gives us clear teaching on the origins of sin. And adultery is … Continue reading ““The Devil Made Me Do It” Excuse”

Common (False) Narratives Need Correcting!

Church ought to be a place where adultery victims can come to find support and comfort. Sadly, it often is quite the opposite. It is hard to admit to another Christian that you have been cheated on, discarded, and divorced by your spouse. This difficulty arises because two deeply entrenched narratives too frequently follow that … Continue reading “Common (False) Narratives Need Correcting!”