The LORD detests lying lips, but he delights in those who tell the truth. -Proverbs 12:22, NLT When my first marriage was falling apart, my (now) ex-wife would make statements and tell people–including my own family–that I was threat to her. I even have an email from her father where he states I am such … Continue reading “Naghmeh Abedini And Sorting My Painful History”
Category: Demons and Spiritual Warfare
My “Dirty Nerdy Moments” Theory
I will praise You, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made; Marvelous are Your works, And that my soul knows very well. -Psalm 139:14, KJV Part of the healing journey after adultery discovery and divorce is learning and embracing the person God has made you to be. It means casting off the denigrating lies of … Continue reading “My “Dirty Nerdy Moments” Theory”
“Monogamy is unnatural.”
A reader of Divorce Minister wrote in asking for me to tackle the old saw that “monogamy is unnatural.” It did not take me long to think of an old Steven Curtis Chapman song addressing such a fatalistic, naturalistic stance: You say, “I am allowed to do anything”—but not everything is good for you. And even though … Continue reading ““Monogamy is unnatural.””
Cheaters Underestimate Faithful Spouses’ Worth
Look at the ravens. They don’t plant or harvest or store food in barns, for God feeds them. And you are far more valuable to him than any birds! – Luke 12:24, NLT Words are weighted. It is harder to dismiss hurtful words from someone who is close to us than from some stranger. … Continue reading “Cheaters Underestimate Faithful Spouses’ Worth”
Was Jesus “Damaged Goods”?
Surely he hath borne our griefs, and carried our sorrows: yet we did esteem him stricken, smitten of God, and afflicted. But he was wounded for our transgressions, he was bruised for our iniquities: the chastisement of our peace was upon him; and with his stripes we are healed. -Isaiah 53:4-5, KJV Satan is not … Continue reading “Was Jesus “Damaged Goods”?”
Top 5 DM Blog Posts of 2015
Top Five DM Blog Posts For 2015 This past year has been a busy year on Divorce Minister. It marks the first full calendar year that Divorce Minister: Taking Adultery Seriously has exited. Below is a countdown of my top five visited stories for 2015 (only counting posts written this year). These posts received hundreds … Continue reading “Top 5 DM Blog Posts of 2015”
Using Our Spiritual Eyes
Early in the morning a servant of the Holy Man got up and went out. Surprise! Horses and chariots surrounding the city! The young man exclaimed, “Oh, master! What shall we do?” He said, “Don’t worry about it—there are more on our side than on their side.” Then Elisha prayed, “O God, open his eyes … Continue reading “Using Our Spiritual Eyes”
Cheater-speak: “Well, if we all become friends afterwards, then we all will be okay.”
Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral. -Hebrews 13:4, NIV The “solution” of making friends with the Other Man/Other Woman after discovering infidelity is a “solution” only a very self-deceived and/or depraved individual could conceive. It is absolutely ludicrous … Continue reading “Cheater-speak: “Well, if we all become friends afterwards, then we all will be okay.””
“Disappointing The Ultimate Authority” Handle
When my divorce was going through against my will (at the time), I experienced heightened spiritual distress. This was distress over disappointing the Ultimate Authority–i.e. God. Cognitively, I understood that I had no power to stop the divorce. My best friend spoke the truth to me earlier in September when he called out that … Continue reading ““Disappointing The Ultimate Authority” Handle”
“Spotlight” Movie Thoughts
“‘How do you say no to God?’”- Victim Yesterday, I went to a local theater to watch the movie “Spotlight.” This movie is about the Catholic Child Sexual Abuse Scandal as broken by the Spotlight group out of the Boston Globe. It is based on that true story from 2001-2003. The movie is truly heartbreaking. … Continue reading ““Spotlight” Movie Thoughts”