Toxic “Christian” Leaders

   15 Suppose a brother or a sister is without clothes and daily food. 16 If one of you says to them, “Go in peace; keep warm and well fed,” but does nothing about their physical needs, what good is it? -James 2:14-16, NIV Plenty of Christian leaders will tell you that they love you and are praying … Continue reading “Toxic “Christian” Leaders”

Detox your soul through thanksgiving

Give thanks to the Lord, for he is good;     his love endures forever. -Psalm 107:1, NIV Sometimes we need a detox from seeing the vile stuff cheaters and their supporters do. I think the best way to do this detox is by giving thanks. We all have things for which we can give thanks. Even the breath … Continue reading “Detox your soul through thanksgiving”

Choosing battles and bridges to burn

To everything there is a season, A time for every purpose under heaven…. -Ecclesiastes 3:1, NKJV Not every battle is worth fighting with a disordered individual. Not every bridge is worth maintaining. Some battles are best left alone. Some bridges are best burned. There is a season for everything. Many of us are not inclined to fight. … Continue reading “Choosing battles and bridges to burn”

Keeping you stuck through denial

How many were deceived for a longer period of time because your cheater explicitly denied what he or she was doing? “I would never cheat on you.”  “You know me better than that. There isn’t another man [woman] involved.” “We need to focus on your problems. Don’t worry about me. I wouldn’t cheat on you.” … Continue reading “Keeping you stuck through denial”

God did NOT send the Other Woman or Other Man to your spouse!

God is never tempted to do wrong, and he never tempts anyone else. -James 1:13b, NLT God did not send the Other Woman (OW) or Other Man (OM) into your spouse’s life. It is sad that this even needs to be stated. However, I am sure plenty of readers here have heard their cheater try … Continue reading “God did NOT send the Other Woman or Other Man to your spouse!”

Cheater lines…

“I don’t love you anymore.” “I feel like we are just roommates.” “I need space.” Have you heard any of these “gems” come out of your cheater’s mouth? Maybe they spoke such words before you knew they were cheating on you? That would make sense. As these words are designed to hide their dastardly behavior … Continue reading “Cheater lines…”

Fear rooted in unbelief

And straightway the father of the child cried out, and said with tears, “Lord, I believe; help thou mine unbelief.” -Mark 9:24, KJV Like this father, sometimes we need help with our unbelief. I believe anxiety (non-medical kind) and fear are rooted in unbelief in God’s goodness towards us. More specifically, we struggle to believe … Continue reading “Fear rooted in unbelief”