“You’ve deceived your closest friends and family into thinking you’re a good person,” says Cheater. The irony of such a statement is how the Cheater is actually the one who has done this, NOT the faithful spouse! They have played their cards close to their vest. Cheated and lied for months or years including to … Continue reading “Cheater-Speak: “You’ve deceived your closest family and friends.””
Category: Emotional Affair
Burming truth
All who do evil hate the light and refuse to go near it for fear their sins will be exposed. -John 3:20, NLT If a cheater has anything of a conscience left, they will be in extreme pain when their actions are exposed for the sin and evil they are. Cheaters committed to their sin … Continue reading “Burming truth”
Sanctimonious Bovine Scat!
“I feel like I have to keep divorce as an option or I am making my marriage an idol,” says duplicitous Cheater. “God wants me to be happy,” says self-deceived Cheater. Sanctimonious Bovine Scat! The invoking of religion in an attempt to “justify” their cheating is especially awful, in my opinion. It messes with one’s … Continue reading “Sanctimonious Bovine Scat!”
On Loaded Questions
“You gotta ask yourself: ‘Why did she HAVE TO leave you?’” says Cheater apologist. “No, the right question is why you are assuming she HAD TO sin,” says Faithful Spouse. “Why did she have to leave you?” is a “Loaded Question“–a logical fallacy. It makes a very BIG assumption–i.e. she HAD TO leave is the … Continue reading “On Loaded Questions”
Dating, again? Look for character!
Dating again? Look for character. I know it is scary to think of this happening to you, again. Dating can be both thrilling and scary. It is hard to trust, again, after being so burned. First, I would recommend NOT dating until your divorce is finalized. You do not need to be in a hurry … Continue reading “Dating, again? Look for character!”
Choose your beliefs wisely!
Cheaters speak all sort of lies about faithful spouses. They are especially “good” at the discard. They speak distorted things about who we are in order to feel better as if they are discarding us like trash. It helps them to think of us that way. You do not have to believe their lies about … Continue reading “Choose your beliefs wisely!”
Cheater offering “honesty”
“Well, I have learned that I have to be open and honest. You never… (Cheater’s pet peeve about faithful spouse).” -Cheater to Pastor in Couple’s Session Does this ring a bell for anyone? If it does, I submit it does as it is part of the demonic playbook to destroy faithful spouses. To be clear, … Continue reading “Cheater offering “honesty””
Golden Rule: Telling Other Partner
Do to others as you would like them to do to you. -Luke 6:31, NLT If you know someone is cheating on their spouse, do you tell the faithful spouse? In a word: YES!!! Now, that does not mean you have to tell them immediately. However, I figure the Golden Rule applies here. Would you … Continue reading “Golden Rule: Telling Other Partner”
Cheater-Speak: “I never intended to hurt you.”
“I never intended to hurt you,” says Cheater. “Whatever. That does not excuse you for horribly sinning against me,” replies Faithful Spouse. Cheaters professing golden intentions are trying to minimize what they did. It is a move to sanitize their image. They do not want to think or others to think that they are that … Continue reading “Cheater-Speak: “I never intended to hurt you.””
Cheater-Speak: “My toxic shame”
“Talking about it just triggers my toxic shame. I can’t face what I did.” -Cheater This is a real conundrum for a faithful spouse. It is hard to heal when you do not have some of the basic facts and your spouse is refusing to help on that number citing “toxic shame.” The “toxic shame” … Continue reading “Cheater-Speak: “My toxic shame””