“For it is from within, out of a person’s heart, that evil thoughts come—sexual immorality, theft, murder, adultery, greed, malice, deceit, lewdness, envy, slander, arrogance and folly. All these evils come from inside and defile a person.” -Mark 7:21-23, NIV When a lack of sex (or attention) is treated as the cause… Infidelity is not … Continue reading “When a lack of sex (or attention) is treated as the cause…”
Category: Emotional Affair
More Attention? More Sex?
The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. -I Corinthians 7:3, NIV Cheaters like to shift the blame upon faithful spouses after the fact! -A cheating husband might attack his wife by talking about how he would never have cheated if they had had more sex. -A … Continue reading “More Attention? More Sex?”
Cheater-Speak: “Our relationship was toxic.”
Thou shalt not commit adultery. -Exodus 20:14, KJV Did I miss something? When I read this verse–part of the Ten Commandments–I don’t see where it says, “Thou shalt not commit adultery unless [you believe] your marriage is a toxic relationship.” I don’t see it because it is NOT there! This is an especially lame cheater excuse or … Continue reading “Cheater-Speak: “Our relationship was toxic.””
Some Healthy and Godly Boundaries
“If your brother or sister sins against you, rebuke them; and if they repent, forgive them.” -Luke 17:3b, NIV Confusion is great dealing with a cheater. Sadly, pastors and other Christian leaders too often do not help faithful spouses through this confusion. They add to it in an attempt to look impartial and “professional.” These are … Continue reading “Some Healthy and Godly Boundaries”
God Is Wrathful Towards the Adulterous!
I will sentence you to the punishment of women who commit adultery and who shed blood; I will bring on you the blood vengeance of my wrath and jealous anger. -Ezekiel 16:38, NIV God is neither meek or neutral when it comes to adultery. Rather, He is righteously wrathful! A godly response to adultery–as we … Continue reading “God Is Wrathful Towards the Adulterous!”
Never speak of “it” again? But God did!
“Have you seen what faithless Israel has done? She has gone up on every high hill and under every spreading tree and has committed adultery there.” -Jeremiah 3:6b, NIV Yes, you are an adulterous wife who takes in strangers instead of her own husband. -Ezekiel 16:32, NLT They are unfaithful to the … Continue reading “Never speak of “it” again? But God did!”
Seared Consciences
But the [Holy] Spirit explicitly and unmistakably declares that in later times some will turn away from the faith…[misled] by the hypocrisy of liars whose consciences are seared as with a branding iron [leaving them incapable of ethical functioning]…. -I Timothy 4:1a,2, AMP When a cheater is telling their spouse, pastor, and/or Christian counselor that … Continue reading “Seared Consciences”
Analogy: So, if a murderer kills a sick person, does that mean she isn’t a murderer?!
Don’t you realize that your bodies are actually parts of Christ? Should a man take his body, which is part of Christ, and join it to a prostitute? Never! -I Corinthians 6:15, NLT Christians seem especially shy in assigning blame to a cheater for destroying his or her marriage. Many seem to believe or operate … Continue reading “Analogy: So, if a murderer kills a sick person, does that mean she isn’t a murderer?!”
Making One’s Own Fires Ends Poorly!
Listen carefully, all you who kindle your own fire [devising your own man-made plan of salvation], Who surround yourselves with torches, Walk by the light of your [self-made] fire And among the torches that you have set ablaze. But this you will have from My hand: You will lie down in [a place of] torment. … Continue reading “Making One’s Own Fires Ends Poorly!”
Cheaters and “The False Gospel of Self-Fulfillment”
See to it that no one takes you captive through hollow and deceptive philosophy…. -Colossians 2:8a, NIV Recently, I came across a fascinating article in Christianity Today by Jen Pollock Michel entitled “Glennon Doyle Melton’s Gospel of Self-Fulfillment: Why living your truth bravely isn’t enough.” The article takes aim at the thinking espoused by famous Momastery blogger, … Continue reading “Cheaters and “The False Gospel of Self-Fulfillment””