“I really hope he didn’t feel uncomfortable with anything,” says Cheater. “What about my comfort with how things are? Why are you more concerned about him than me, your husband?” says faithful spouse. Being a good host is one thing. Taking a particular guest’s opinion and comfort into consideration OVER your spouse’s is another thing. … Continue reading “Misplaced Concern”
Category: Emotional Affair
Cheater Overflow
21 For from within, out of a person’s heart, come evil thoughts, sexual immorality, theft, murder, 22 adultery, greed, wickedness, deceit, lustful desires, envy, slander, pride, and foolishness. 23 All these vile things come from within; they are what defile you. -Mark 7:21-23, NLT Cheaters usually will try to point the finger at anyone other than themselves. The challenge … Continue reading “Cheater Overflow”
Pining after Cheater-Ex?
So the Lord blessed Job in the second half of his life even more than in the beginning. -Job 42:12a, NLT Cheaters enjoy being the center of your attention. The best revenge is one where they are irrelevant to your life. You are too busy with the new life God has given you to even think of … Continue reading “Pining after Cheater-Ex?”
Forgiveness does NOT undo trauma!
No one said a word to him, because they saw how great his suffering was. -Job 2:13b, NIV Forgiveness does NOT erase the effects of trauma! You can both forgive and still be revolted by your cheating spouse. The two are not mutually exclusive. I am annoyed with pastors and churches pushing traumatized faithful spouses … Continue reading “Forgiveness does NOT undo trauma!”
Holding it over their head forever?!
“I’m concerned that you will hold this [affair] over my head forever if I stay,” Cheater declares. A cheater who makes such a statement is still more concerned about themselves than the trauma they inflicted on their spouse by cheating. The statement really is revealing. Such a cheater still believes it is about their wishes … Continue reading “Holding it over their head forever?!”
Defiled Temples of Carnal Christians
Because we have these promises, dear friends, let us cleanse ourselves from everything that can defile our body or spirit. And let us work toward complete holiness because we fear God. -2 Corinthians 6:1, NLT Cheaters defile the very temple that is their bodies by engaging in adulterous sin. We know this is the case … Continue reading “Defiled Temples of Carnal Christians”
A wicked way to go!
If a man is discovered committing adultery, both he and the woman must die. In this way, you will purge Israel of such evil. -Deuteronomy 22:22, NLT Cheaters sometimes choose adultery as a way to totally blow up their marriage on the way out. They are executing their plan to abandon their spouse via the … Continue reading “A wicked way to go!”
Cheater-Speak: “I don’t know who I am.”
“I don’t know who I am,” says Cheater. This statement is often accompanied by some sort of statement regarding being “trapped” in the marriage. They view the faithful spouse and the marriage as an obstacle to self discovery. The funny thing about this statement is how the Cheater is actually telling on herself. By saying … Continue reading “Cheater-Speak: “I don’t know who I am.””
That pursuit advice is trash.
“I know she cheated. But what you need to do is pursue her like Christ did His Bride, the Church,” says naive Christian leader. The pursuit advice is trash. In my opinion, the last thing a narcissistic adulteress needs is more suitors fawning over her. She does not need to be treated as the prize … Continue reading “That pursuit advice is trash.”
They minimize.
“She’s just a friend.” “It was only one kiss.” “I was drunk; it doesn’t mean anything.” Cheaters minimize. It is what they do. In fact, I think that is what we all do as sinners to some extent. We struggle to face the reality of our sins. The Enemy often uses this strategy to keep … Continue reading “They minimize.”