The soul that sinneth, it shall die. The son shall not bear the iniquity of the father, neither shall the father bear the iniquity of the son: the righteousness of the righteous shall be upon him, and the wickedness of the wicked shall be upon him. -Ezekiel 18:20, KJV Some Christians think talking about “your … Continue reading “No bitterness AND justice”
Category: Emotional Affair
While expensive, breaking free worth it!
Owe nothing to anyone—except for your obligation to love one another. -Romans 13:8a, NLT When dealing with divorce, you are dealing with a financially devastating situation. It is painful. Maybe you set aside your career for this person? Maybe you are relying on them as you try to find your next job? Maybe you … Continue reading “While expensive, breaking free worth it!”
Stay married for “holiness”? Really?!
25 Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it; 26 That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word,27 That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be … Continue reading “Stay married for “holiness”? Really?!”
Labelled the problem?
Anyone else here given a label by a counselor identifying YOU as the marriage problem? This assumes the cheater comes to counseling. Some don’t. A problem with counselors is that some are not up on the games cheaters play. They become complicit in the act of keeping the faithful spouse off the scent of what … Continue reading “Labelled the problem?”
“Let’s talk about YOUR sins,” says cheater apologist.
“It doesn’t matter what she did. Let’s talk about YOUR sins.” – Cheater Apologist This sort of response is the very definition of dismissive. It has all the appearance of godliness without the substance. Of course, adultery–i.e. the victimization of faithful spouses–matters to God! When someone responds by being dismissive of adultery or infidelity, it is … Continue reading ““Let’s talk about YOUR sins,” says cheater apologist.”
The destructive path
You can rationalize it all you want and justify the path of error you have chosen, but you’ll find out in the end that you took the road to destruction. -Proverbs 14:12, TPT “I have to follow my heart,” says the cheater. “God would want me to be happy,” says the cheater. “I have to … Continue reading “The destructive path”
Grateful God Condemns Adultery
God will surely judge people who are immoral and those who commit adultery. -Hebrews 13:4b, NLT God is love…. -I John 4:16b, KJV If God does not condemn anything, can God real be loving? I do not think so. That is why I am grateful God does condemn adultery as evil (see Deut. 22:22). Such condemnation is … Continue reading “Grateful God Condemns Adultery”
No marriage left to save as long as still cheating!
Public Service Notice: As long as the cheater is still cheating, you do not have a marriage to save. You cannot fix this situation on your own. No matter how much you want to stay married. That is all you will do. You will stay attached to your abuser. What you won’t have is a … Continue reading “No marriage left to save as long as still cheating!”
Upset about moral warnings!
…do not be unfaithful to the wife of your youth. -Malachi 2:15b, NIV Whether it is their conscience or the demonic, I do not know. What I know is some cheaters despise reminders of God’s condemnation of their infidelity. They rage and strike out verbally when reminded what they are doing is wrong in the … Continue reading “Upset about moral warnings!”
Repentance is the price of admission.
“If your brother or sister sins against you, rebuke them; and if they repent, forgive them.” -Luke 17:3b, NIV (emphasis mine) You are wasting your time with a cheater if they are not repenting. The sinful behavior will continue with all its abuse without this critical change. Please, faithful spouse, do not settle for less … Continue reading “Repentance is the price of admission.”