‘”6 Since they are no longer two but one, let no one split apart what God has joined together.’” -Matthew 19:6, NLT Today, I was at a conference where the speaker, Steve Backlund, said something about marriage and making decisions. He stated that the marriage vows really say, “I’m going to keep choosing you.” I totally … Continue reading “Marriage day vows are a solemn promise to choose your spouse”
Category: Emotional Affair
Really BAD idea!
“Why don’t you both take a break from each other?” -Clueless Counselor This is one of the dumbest pieces of advice given to a couple dealing with infidelity. The problems of an infidelity ravaged marriage are not solved by creating more distance and less accountability for the cheater. Both are the last things needed, actually. A break … Continue reading “Really BAD idea!”
My feelings regarding the Other Man
Keep to a path far from her [adulteress], do not go near the door of her house, lest you lose your honor to others and your dignity to one who is cruel, lest strangers feast on your wealth and your toil enrich the house of another. -Proverbs 8-10, NIV How do I feel about the affair … Continue reading “My feelings regarding the Other Man”
Their sins are NOT in anyway your fault!
For we must all stand before Christ to be judged. We will each receive whatever we deserve for the good or evil we have done in this earthly body. – 2 Corinthians 5:10, NLT You are NOT responsible for your Cheater’s sins. Period. If you are like me, you will encounter all sort of people … Continue reading “Their sins are NOT in anyway your fault!”
Adultery damages more than the faithful partner
Then they sat on the ground with him for seven days and nights. No one said a word to Job, for they saw that his suffering was too great for words. -Job 2:13, NIV Just as the wedding day is a family event, the adultery discovery and divorce are felt by the same family as … Continue reading “Adultery damages more than the faithful partner”
“A cry for help” affair excuse nonsense
“Don’t you see it [the cheating] was a cry for help?! If only you had ____ (fill in favorite cheater grievance with faithful spouse) more, then I wouldn’t have cheated.” -Unfaithful spouse Using the “Cry for help” excuse for an affair–either emotional or physical–is manipulation pure and simple. The cheater is using this label to … Continue reading ““A cry for help” affair excuse nonsense”
Ready
For You, Lord, are good, and ready to forgive, And abundant in mercy to all those who call upon You. -Psalm 86:5, NKJV “God is ready to forgive.” -Diane Langberg, Ph.D. I was on an online event today where Dr. Diane Langberg spoke. She brought this point up about forgiveness as a point about God’s forgiveness. The idea … Continue reading “Ready”
Emotional Affair Hogwash
But I say, anyone who even looks at a woman with lust has already committed adultery with her in his heart. -Matthew 5:28, NLT I am convinced Cheaters will generally admit the “lesser” of their sins when caught. This means in an evangelical Christian world that they will admit an emotional affair before they admit … Continue reading “Emotional Affair Hogwash”
If it is about power over…
But Jesus called them together and said, “You know that the rulers in this world lord it over their people, and officials flaunt their authority over those under them.” -Matthew 20:25, NLT “You will just keep that [her cheating] over her head forever [if she stayed married to you].” -Cheater apologist Some people view all relationships … Continue reading “If it is about power over…”
Pastor Matt Chandler Put On Indefinite Leave Over Inappropriate Communications
So a church leader must be a man whose life is above reproach. -I Timothy 3:2a, NLT Pastor Matt Chandler was placed on leave because of his online behavior. In particular, his DMing of a married woman was considered. Here’s a statement from The Village Church leadership: “We are strong proponents of brothers and sisters … Continue reading “Pastor Matt Chandler Put On Indefinite Leave Over Inappropriate Communications”