Herod was furious when he realized that the wise men had outwitted him. He sent soldiers to kill all the boys in and around Bethlehem who were two years old and under, based on the wise men’s report of the star’s first appearance. -Mathew 2:16, NLT Satan threw everything at me a little over a … Continue reading “A Decade as a Board Certified Chaplain”
Category: Encouragement
Financial Reliance
One of the hardest parts of adultery discovery and divorce is how it can be financially devastating for the faithful spouse. Cheaters know this. I think some use it as another emotional cudgel with which to beat their faithful spouse. They use their financial power to terrorize their (soon to be ex) spouse. I think … Continue reading “Financial Reliance”
Grief Surprise
Recently, I was driving to a friend’s house and feeling a little sad. Initially, I could not put my finger on what was putting me in the funk. Then I realized… …it was my “trauma-versary!” A little over a decade ago, my (now) ex-wife called and confirmed my worst suspicions. She had–indeed–been sexually active with … Continue reading “Grief Surprise”
Give thanks ALWAYS!
16 Always be joyful. 17 Never stop praying. 18 Be thankful in all circumstances, for this is God’s will for you who belong to Christ Jesus. -I Thessalonians 5:16-18, NLT When going through infidelity discovery and divorce, it is too easy to focus on what we have lost and the injustice of it all. We start losing sight of what … Continue reading “Give thanks ALWAYS!”
Hymn Encouragement: Truth About Fiery Trials
“When through fiery trials thy pathway shall lie, My grace, all-sufficient, shall be thy supply. The flame shall not hurt thee; I only design thy dross to consume, and thy gold to refine.” -“How Firm a Foundation” (Public Domain) Discovering a spouse’s infidelity certainly qualifies as a “fiery trial!” I love the following line about … Continue reading “Hymn Encouragement: Truth About Fiery Trials”
To love again
“There is no safe investment. To love at all is to be vulnerable. Love anything, and your heart will certainly be wrung and possibly be broken. If you want to make sure of keeping it intact, you must give your heart to no one, not even to an animal. Wrap it carefully round with hobbies … Continue reading “To love again”
Successful Chumpalooza 1.0!
What a wonderful conference! I feel so honored to have been given time at this conference to share a little of what I have learned over the years as well as my heart. It was such a blessing to connect with fellow chumps–aka faithful spouses. Loved attending this with Mrs. DM as well. She had … Continue reading “Successful Chumpalooza 1.0!”
Blog Pause – November 3-5 for Chumpalooza 1.0
Tomorrow, I will be at Chumpalooza 1.o. While I am at this conference, I wanted to free up my bandwidth to focus on my talks as well as connecting with other faithful spouses–aka chumps. As such, I am going to pause posting to the blog during the weekend. Thanks for understanding, and I plan on … Continue reading “Blog Pause – November 3-5 for Chumpalooza 1.0”
Opposes the proud
As the Scriptures say, “God opposes the proud but gives grace to the humble.” -James 4:6b, NLT Did you catch that? “God opposes the proud.” This is at the core of the cheater problem–i.e. pride. They believe they are more important than their spouse, and they are believe that they are entitled to their sinful … Continue reading “Opposes the proud”
Another bday! Yay!!
Life is such a gift! Today, I celebrate another year on this crazy globe. It has been a wonderful year of surprises, some disappointments, personal growth, and much, much joy. This past year I pressed 865lbs in training (picture above). Sadly, my meet in July went poorly with all my attempts failing. So, I am … Continue reading “Another bday! Yay!!”