“What if what the cheater is saying about me is true?!” -frets the faithful spouse This is a destructive “What if?” Faithful spouses stuck in this “What if?” are in real danger of spiritual and emotional destruction. They are allowing the daggers of cheater lies dig deeper into their heart. My encouragement is to remember … Continue reading “No good out of the “what if’s””
Category: Encouragement
You’re awesome! Faithful Spouse, never forget it.
After months, years, or even decades of emotional beat-downs, faithful spouses often struggle in knowing their incredible worth. We discount our gifts, abilities, and precious status in God’s eyes. Faithful spouses, you are an incredible bunch! The stories I hear and the people I have met through this ministry confirms this fact to me. I … Continue reading “You’re awesome! Faithful Spouse, never forget it.”
A stranger
Yesterday, I was on a social media site. As they do, they post connection suggestions. One of those was a picture of my ex and her new husband. In that moment, I realized that she is just a stranger to me at this point. All connection has been severed and cauterized. Thankfully. Now in my … Continue reading “A stranger”
Faithful pets
“That cat has been more faithful to me than you daughter!” -Faithful Spouse to MIL (Mother-In-Law) Sometimes our animals exhibited greater character than our spouses. At least, they didn’t cheat on us. It is a sad commentary on cheaters that this is such a true statement. They cannot even beat out a cat or a … Continue reading “Faithful pets”
Happy Father’s Day, Brothers!
“But for us, There is one God, the Father, by whom all things were created, and for whom we live.” -I Corinthians 8:6a, NLT Happy Father’s Day, brothers! I know this holiday is fraught. However, I hope you find ways to enjoy your special day. You, faithful spouse, are an amazing parent having navigated these … Continue reading “Happy Father’s Day, Brothers!”
Unexpected joys
May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace as you trust in him, so that you may overflow with hope by the power of the Holy Spirit. -Romans 15:13, NIV Years ago, I would have never imagined I would become a bird owner. Taking care of parrots was NOT on my radar. … Continue reading “Unexpected joys”
Continue to tell your story
Telling the story of what happened is important if we want to change how people treat faithful spouses. The larger narrative starts to change when people learn that their friend, colleague, or even family member was mistreated by a cheater. It changes because they are emotionally invested in you and your hurts matter to them. … Continue reading “Continue to tell your story”
Encouraging Song: “Never Alone”
…for he hath said, I will never leave thee, nor forsake thee. -Hebrews 13:5b, KJV I discovered this new song by Jason Upton. It was a blessing to hear, and I love the lyrics. May it be a prayer to help us meditate the truth from our heads to our hearts. “Never Alone” by Jason … Continue reading “Encouraging Song: “Never Alone””
You ARE wanted!
Even before he made the world, God loved us and chose us in Christ to be holy and without fault in his eyes. -Ephesians 1:4, NLT I love the feeling of being “wanted” or “needed” by someone. It is the feeling of knowing your love and attention are welcomed and desired. How about you? I … Continue reading “You ARE wanted!”
Misplaced hope
So God has given both his promise and his oath. These two things are unchangeable because it is impossible for God to lie. Therefore, we who have fled to him for refuge can have great confidence as we hold to the hope that lies before us. -Hebrews 6:18, NIV Are we placing our hope in … Continue reading “Misplaced hope”