And all his sons and all his daughters rose up to comfort him; but he refused to be comforted…. -Genesis 37:35a, KJV Giving up the dreams regarding your marriage are tough. I had a dream of only being married once. My dream included only giving myself to one woman. I grew up in a Christian … Continue reading “Regarding death of dreams”
Category: Encouragement
Soul care?
“I am the good shepherd. The good shepherd sacrifices his life for the sheep. “ -John 10:11, NLT Holding onto to the belief in God’s goodness is a real fete of soul strength during the time of infidelity discovery and divorce. I know it is not easy. It is a real test of one’s … Continue reading “Soul care?”
Good and bad news regarding friends
A friend is always loyal, and a brother is born to help in time of need. -Proverbs 17:17, NLT Good news and bad news about friends during times of marital distress: First, I will share the bad news: Some of the most painful betrayals will be friends and even family choosing the cheater over … Continue reading “Good and bad news regarding friends”
Grateful for our animals
My silly cat, Mr. Pickles, got me through my divorce. I will always be thankful for this furry buddy. He would meet me at the door when I got home, and would roll over for a tummy rub, which would end with him attacking my foot as I rubbed his belly. At night, he would … Continue reading “Grateful for our animals”
Growing Hope
Now faith is confidence in what we hope for and assurance about what we do not see. -Hebrews 11:1, NIV Three things will last forever—faith, hope, and love—and the greatest of these is love. -I Corinthians 13:13, NLT When going through the darkness, faith in God’s goodness is important. This faith is an act of … Continue reading “Growing Hope”
Made me
“You intended to harm me, but God intended it all for good. He brought me to this position so I could save the lives of many people.” -Genesis 50:20, NLT I work in a prison. It is my day job–i.e. the job that pays the bills. To be honest, I did not see myself working … Continue reading “Made me”
Season for divorce? Yes.
For everything there is a season, a time for every activity under heaven. -Ecclesiastes 3:1, NLT Sometimes choosing divorce is the best of bad options left for a faithful spouse. This is why I cite this wisdom verse. It is allegedly written by the wisest of all humans–bar Jesus–King Solomon. Everything means everything. That includes … Continue reading “Season for divorce? Yes.”
Unbidden memories
Sometimes the memories resurface at the strangest times. That’s the nature of grief. It ambushes and goes at its own speed. And the difficult memories are not the hard ones. They are the “good” memories. Those memories are the hardest for me, at least. “Good” memories drive home the thought that something worthwhile was truly … Continue reading “Unbidden memories”
Way when no way
See, I am doing a new thing! Now it springs up; do you not perceive it? I am making a way in the wilderness and streams in the wasteland. -Isaiah 43:19, NIV Sometimes, you may feel like there is no way out of your circumstances. It looks bleak. I know I felt that way. My … Continue reading “Way when no way”
Grateful for my secular divorce lawyer
When I got divorced back in 2012, I had a good divorce lawyer. She was probably the clearest-eyed professional in the whole saga ending. It was a flat fee sort of thing. Looking back, I am grateful that somehow I found this lawyer seeing how divorce attorneys can be very expensive. (It was definitely a … Continue reading “Grateful for my secular divorce lawyer”