When I got divorced back in 2012, I had a good divorce lawyer. She was probably the clearest-eyed professional in the whole saga ending. It was a flat fee sort of thing. Looking back, I am grateful that somehow I found this lawyer seeing how divorce attorneys can be very expensive. Now, we had a … Continue reading “My secular divorce lawyer”
Category: Encouragement
Rock anthem from the 80s to fuel proper non-toleration of cheaters!
I dub this: “The Anti-Adultery Tolerance Rock Anthem!” This past week I was listening to the music on my smartphone. “We’re Not Gonna Take It” by the Twisted Sisters popped up, and I thought, “What a wonderful song to strengthen the timid!” Therefore, strengthen your feeble arms and weak knees. -Hebrews 12:12, NIV This is … Continue reading “Rock anthem from the 80s to fuel proper non-toleration of cheaters!”
Happy New Year! Divorce Minister Blog going strong in 2021.
Happy New Year! This is the day I usually post a little about who comes to my digital shores over the year. It helps to know that this ministry is touching lives, and those who come are far from alone. In 2021–even with my big blog pause in December–the blog nearly made it to 100,000 … Continue reading “Happy New Year! Divorce Minister Blog going strong in 2021.”
Natural time to look to the future and the “new things” God is doing!
18 Remember ye not the former things, neither consider the things of old. 19 Behold, I will do a new thing; now it shall spring forth; shall ye not know it? I will even make a way in the wilderness, and rivers in the desert. -Isaiah 43:18-19, KJV I love history. Maybe that love the past and … Continue reading “Natural time to look to the future and the “new things” God is doing!”
Just because it does not look good now… Do NOT give up hope!
To all who mourn in Israel… …a joyous blessing instead of mourning, festive praise instead of despair. -ISAIAH 61:3a, b, NLT When my divorce was fresh, I remember feeling great sadness over the thought of losing the opportunity to be a father. That was six years ago.* It was a dark … Continue reading “Just because it does not look good now… Do NOT give up hope!”
Despair is a liar!
And this hope is not a disappointing fantasy, because we can now experience the endless love of God cascading into our hearts through the Holy Spirit who lives in us! -Romans 5:5, TPT Despair lies all the time. It tells you to live in fear and give up all hope of a better future. … Continue reading “Despair is a liar!”
Darkness cannot overcome Light!
And this Light never fails to shine through darkness— Light that darkness could not overcome. -John 1:5, TPT Sometimes we need reminders. When we are surrounded by the darkness, it is good to remember that God’s light overcomes the darkness. Always. The darkness does not win. It cannot overcome the light. This is the hope … Continue reading “Darkness cannot overcome Light!”
Pining after your cheater? Rebuild your life and leave them as an unpleasant footnote.
So the Lord blessed Job in the second half of his life even more than in the beginning. -Job 42:12a, NLT Cheaters enjoy being the center of your attention. The best revenge is one where they are irrelevant to your life. You are too busy with the new life God has given you to even think of … Continue reading “Pining after your cheater? Rebuild your life and leave them as an unpleasant footnote.”
The grief can be complicated.
Grief hurts. It surprises even years after the loss. You might think you have “dealt with that” only to discover feelings ambush you at some surprise moment. Our culture does not do grief well. Churches can be especially bad on this number. This is particularly true as it comes to the grief associated with a … Continue reading “The grief can be complicated.”
Nine years later… barely a memory!
Yesterday, it would have been nine years since I received word that my divorce was finalized. It nearly went by without my notice. For a moment, I wondered if it had already passed without my notice. Yet, that is all I did–i.e. notice it. This response is one that I could not even imagine nine … Continue reading “Nine years later… barely a memory!”