Then Jesus wept. -John 11:35, NLT When looking for a pastor, I would encourage you to consider empathy and compassion as necessary traits. The “answer man” or “answer woman” is not what a hurting heart needs. Today, I read an excellent article about the importance of this trait in pastors. It was written by … Continue reading “Look for a pastor with empathy!”
Category: Encouragement
Strengthen through music!
When I was struggling the most, I would spend time soaking in the tub at my condominium while listening to music. The music was songs that reminded me of truths about God. They were songs to remind me of God’s love for me and to give me hope. I recommend this practice of listening to … Continue reading “Strengthen through music!”
Divorce Minister is a Gospel Ministry
The Spirit of the Lord is upon me, because he hath anointed me to preach the gospel to the poor; he hath sent me to heal the brokenhearted, to preach deliverance to the captives, and recovering of sight to the blind, to set at liberty them that are bruised, to preach the acceptable year of the … Continue reading “Divorce Minister is a Gospel Ministry”
Advice from a non-therapist…
The following lesson is a lesson I learned the hard way: Be choosy as it comes to who you use as a marriage therapist (if you choose to go that route and the cheater is willing). If the counselor has been your cheater’s individual therapist, they are not suited to help you both as a … Continue reading “Advice from a non-therapist…”
Your spouse was never meant to meet this need…
Free Marriage Advice: If you are looking to your spouse to prove that you are lovable, you are looking to the wrong person. When we look to humans to fill a God-shaped hole, we will always be disappointed. Humans were never intended to “fix” us. Only God can satisfy the deepest longings in our souls. … Continue reading “Your spouse was never meant to meet this need…”
Most “Christian” resources I found during my difficult time…
While I am thankful for the help of some Christian resources in my dark season, I discovered most had an agenda apart from freely presenting the options. Most Christian resources–in my experience–are focused upon “saving the marriage.” This goal is pursued at the unacknowledged cost of the faithful spouse’s well-being. For these authors and pastors, … Continue reading “Most “Christian” resources I found during my difficult time…”
The power of hobbies
I am grateful for hobbies. One of my hobbies these days is chasing after a raw bench of 500 lbs (roughly 227 kilograms). This is slightly stymied by the Covid 19 restrictions in my state not allowing for spotters. However, I am still safely making gains (I think). It is a wonderful thing to have … Continue reading “The power of hobbies”
A song to break through fear!
Ye are of God, little children, and have overcome them: because greater is he that is in you, than he that is in the world. -I John 4:4, KJV When faced with scary lies, I encourage you to remember who is with you. God is greater than any problem before you. Do not give into … Continue reading “A song to break through fear!”
An encouraging word for those hungry for justice
This morning I decided to listen to some sermons or thoughts from a favorite preacher, Bob Sorge. The sermon highlight entitled “Justice” caught my eye. I hope it will minister to your heart as it did mine:
Crazy bird man! Ha.
Well, I did not see this one coming. When I got divorced and remarried, I never thought I would become an owner of parrots. It just did not come up while dating Mrs. DM. Yet here I am… …five parrots later! Really, it is a joy. Mrs. DM knows how to play my love of … Continue reading “Crazy bird man! Ha.”