Why do we take advice from an unrepentant cheater? I know I am not the only one who did. At least, I did this for a time. I opened myself up to her criticism as if she was qualified to identify “the problems.” This likely comes from a desperation to “save the marriage.” A solution … Continue reading “Do not take marriage advice from unrepentant cheaters!”
Category: Encouragement
99 Cents Divorce Minister book for limited time!
In celebration of the blog’s sixth anniversary, I have decided to put my eBook on sale for $0.99 from Monday, July 13th through Sunday, July 19th, 2020! For less than one US dollar, you can gain access to the eBook version of my work here. In this book, I cover the basic topics of the … Continue reading “99 Cents Divorce Minister book for limited time!”
Divorce Minister Blog Ministry Turns Six Years Old!
Divorce Minister: Taking Adultery Seriously has existed for six years as of today! This ministry started as a way to share my thoughts on the important topic of marital infidelity and divorce. In fact, I first thought very few people would be interested in what I wrote. I grossly underestimated my audience. Divorce Minister continues to … Continue reading “Divorce Minister Blog Ministry Turns Six Years Old!”
DM, How did you move forward into a new relationship with Mrs. DM?
Hi DM, Question for you. How were you able to move forward with Mrs. DM with regards to trust? I am most likely getting divorced and am afraid that I would carry the scars of my WH’s serial infidelity/dishonesty into the next relationship (if I were to be brave enough to try to love again). … Continue reading “DM, How did you move forward into a new relationship with Mrs. DM?”
Happy Independence Day!!!
Hope you are all enjoying your July 4th holiday! I am away with my family up at a lake cabin during this time. So, the posts might be spotty. Grateful during this holiday to remember the gift of freedom. Also, I am grateful to be free from my cheater and with an amazing family, my … Continue reading “Happy Independence Day!!!”
The destructive case of the “what if’s”
“What if what the cheater is saying about me is true?!” -frets the faithful spouse This is a destructive “What if?” Faithful spouses stuck in this “What if?” are in real danger of spiritual and emotional destruction. They are allowing the daggers of cheater lies dig deeper into their heart. My encouragement is to remember … Continue reading “The destructive case of the “what if’s””
Faithful spouses, you are awesome!
After months, years, or even decades of emotional beat-downs, faithful spouses often struggle in knowing their incredible worth. We discount our gifts, abilities, and precious status in God’s eyes. Faithful spouses, you are an incredible bunch! The stories I hear and the people I have met through this ministry confirms this fact to me. I … Continue reading “Faithful spouses, you are awesome!”
Staying power of kindness
David asked, “Is there anyone still left of the house of Saul to whom I can show kindness for Jonathan’s sake?” -2 Samuel 9:1, NIV As faithful spouses, we deal with a lot of betrayals as we go through the valleys of infidelity discovery and divorce. For many of us, we also experience kindness from … Continue reading “Staying power of kindness”
Practical advice for healing and finding peace
“…and the truth shall make you free.” -John 8:32b, KJV Two Practical Strategies for Peace* When I was recovering from my divorce from my cheater, two particular strategies helped me the most. 1. Identify the “handles,” “triggers,” or otherwise unwanted labels/identities that you vehemently are trying to avoid. An effective manipulator is able to hone … Continue reading “Practical advice for healing and finding peace”
Happy Father’s Day, Faithful Fathers!
Happy Father’s Day! Having Munchkin as my daughter is one of the greatest blessings that came from the dark valley of divorce. I never would have had this incredible joy if my first marriage had not ended. I know for many here that this is a tough day. However, I want to focus on the … Continue reading “Happy Father’s Day, Faithful Fathers!”