Buckle your spiritual seat belts!

For your shame ye shall have double; and for confusion they shall rejoice in their portion: therefore in their land they shall possess the double: everlasting joy shall be unto them. -Isaiah 61:7, KJV When we think of some circumstance happening, we can easily gravitate to sudden catastrophes. That is what discovering a cheater was, after all. That … Continue reading “Buckle your spiritual seat belts!”

Spiritual trauma best addressed by faithful pastors

A cheerful heart is good medicine, but a crushed spirit dries up the bones. -Proverbs 17:22, NIV Much of the suffering faithful spouses experience is spiritual in nature. Writing this blog for a couple of years, the questions I encounter center around deep spiritual pain and confusion. These are not so much the nuts and … Continue reading “Spiritual trauma best addressed by faithful pastors”

The Second Betrayal for Faithful Spouse Pastors

If you bite and devour each other, watch out or you will be destroyed by each other. -Galatians 5:15, NIV When you tell your denomination or church about your cheating spouse and the divorce, the hope is for support. Sadly, this hope is often dashed by evangelical leaders who are stuck in ungodly divorce prejudice. … Continue reading “The Second Betrayal for Faithful Spouse Pastors”

Healing comes in time. It does.

Blessed are they that mourn: for they shall be comforted. -Matthew 5:4, KJV Today, I was struck by the progress I have made in my healing journey. This came to mind as I was listening to someone teach on leaving an abuser. Fresh off my divorce, this teaching would have been too painful for me. … Continue reading “Healing comes in time. It does.”

Pro-Tip: Marry a bad liar for Spouse 2.0!

Pro-Tip: Marry a Bad Liar One of Mrs. DM’s many endearing traits is that she is a bad liar. I can tell when she is trying to fool me…usually. My ex-wife was (and is?) an excellent liar in my opinion. And that is not a complement. It is my observation. It was chilling how well … Continue reading “Pro-Tip: Marry a bad liar for Spouse 2.0!”

Happy Valentine’s Day to those whose love was true!

To the faithful you show yourself faithful…. -Psalm 18:25a, NIV Happy Valentine’s Day to the faithful! Even though today may be a hard day for many of us, know that God loves you and honors your faithfulness. He is a “good bet!” Focus on those who truly love you on this day is my encouragement. … Continue reading “Happy Valentine’s Day to those whose love was true!”

David Clarke, Ph.D. Online Resource

While wondering on the internet looking for resources from David Clarke, PhD, I stumbled upon his website (click here). These past few days I have been listening to his podcast. He has some good things to say in those podcasts. Clarke is not a wimpy Christian counselor. He does not let cheaters off the hook … Continue reading “David Clarke, Ph.D. Online Resource”

Confirmation and Encouragement from God

Now we have received, not the spirit of the world, but the spirit which is of God; that we might know the things that are freely given to us of God. -1 Corinthians 2:12, KJV A few weeks ago, I was thinking about slowing things down on this blog as far as posts were concerned. … Continue reading “Confirmation and Encouragement from God”