Darkness tests our faith in the Light

And without faith it is impossible to please God, because anyone who comes to him must believe that he exists and that he rewards those who earnestly seek him. -Hebrews 11:6, NIV When our worlds are blown up and we feel like all is darkness, we are faced with a choice: Do I believe the Light … Continue reading “Darkness tests our faith in the Light”

“Sexual Prosperity Gospel” and Divorce

“It is ironic, then, that Christians who denounce the prosperity gospel have in recent years touted its sexier, if subtler, form: the sexual prosperity gospel…. [The Sexual Prosperity Gospel] holds that God will reward premarital chastity with a good Christian spouse, great sex and perpetual marital fulfillment.” -Katelyn Beaty in “Joshua Harris and the sexual … Continue reading ““Sexual Prosperity Gospel” and Divorce”

Soothing meditation

What do you do to calm yourself when you feel anxious? I usually get anxious when a medical provider is taking my blood pressure. The fear of “failing” this test just makes it a self-fulfilling prophecy as my anxiety rises and with it, my blood pressure. Telling myself to “calm down” just doesn’t work.  What … Continue reading “Soothing meditation”

Let go of what you don’t control.

25 Who of you by worrying can add a single hour to your life? 26 Since you cannot do this very little thing, why do you worry about the rest? -Luke 12:25-26, NIV Sometimes, I find myself trying to control something outside of my control. Usually, this takes the form of worrying. I am pretty practiced at tormenting … Continue reading “Let go of what you don’t control.”

Would you say such a thing to your own best friend?

Would you say the same thing (you just thought about yourself) out loud about a really good friend? We, faithful spouses, can be our worst enemies. Instead of rejection the condemnation and shame, we heap it upon ourselves. This needs to stop.   There is therefore now no condemnation to them which are in Christ … Continue reading “Would you say such a thing to your own best friend?”

Divorce Minister Blog turns 5 years old today!

Five years and still going! This blog almost was killed several times in its short existence from outside threats. However, I have kept it going by God’s grace. God has used this blog to touch nearly 260,000 individual lives across the globe (198 countries/territories)! I really am amazed by what God has done with this … Continue reading “Divorce Minister Blog turns 5 years old today!”

The Joy of Independence

Dealing with an (unwanted) divorce can leave one focusing on losses… …yet there are gains as well. On this July 4th, I want to highlight the gains of independence. I remember enjoying that independence after divorce. It was a truly nice gift. Enjoying our independence following a divorce from a cheater is an important step … Continue reading “The Joy of Independence”

Testimonies of blessed lives post-divorce

The Lord blessed the latter part of Job’s life more than the former part. -Job 42:12, NIV The Church needs to hear stories from divorced faithful spouses who went on to live fulfilling lives after the ending of their marriages. These testimonies are needed for faithful spouses who are trapped in fear. The fear of the spiritually … Continue reading “Testimonies of blessed lives post-divorce”