Dear DM, When you say you had to learn to love yourself quirkiness, introvertness and all – do you mean that you struggled with blaming yourself for your ex’s rejection? I’m 5 years out and have definitely been blessed by God since the divorce. I still have this anxiety about it having been my fault … Continue reading “Mailbag: What does learning to embrace one’s quirkiness mean?”
Category: Encouragement
When most vulnerable…
Cheaters seem to thrive on cheating when their spouse is most vulnerable. This is yet another demonic pattern that I have noticed. The vulnerable time might take multiple forms: -Maybe the faithful spouse is in a fight for her life dealing with breast cancer? -Maybe it is a faithful husband who just was fired from … Continue reading “When most vulnerable…”
Just another day five years out…
Just another day five years out… I used to dread the anniversary of my divorce. But this year it came and passed without me noticing. It was just another day five years later. I was too busy with my new life to be bothered by what is now ancient history…so to speak. I share this … Continue reading “Just another day five years out…”
It does get better…
Instead of your shame you will receive a double portion, and instead of disgrace you will rejoice in your inheritance. -Isaiah 61:7a, NIV It gets better… When in the depths of the darkness, it is hard to imagine the pain ever ending. The thought of a life without the person who became one with you in … Continue reading “It does get better…”
Ode of Eeyore – Psalm 88
A favorite Psalm of mine is Psalm 88. I called it an “Ode of Eeyore” because this Psalm is dark. And I love that. It creates space for those of us who are experiencing the darkness. We don’t have to put on our “happy faces.” The author of Psalm 88 grants us permission to acknowledge … Continue reading “Ode of Eeyore – Psalm 88”
Give Thanks! Happy Thanksgiving!
Give thanks to the LORD, for he is good. His love endures forever. -Psalm 136:1, NIV Even in the midst of great loss and tragedy, I believe it is even more important to give thanks to God. Satan wants to use the trials and traumas of this life to drive a wedge between us and our loving … Continue reading “Give Thanks! Happy Thanksgiving!”
Winners, Cheaters Are NOT!
So he swore an oath to him, selling his birthright to Jacob. Then Jacob gave Esau some bread and some lentil stew. He ate and drank, and then got up and left. So Esau despised his birthright. -Genesis 25:33-34, NIV My integrity is not for sale!!! It is very precious to me. If I break my promise, this valuing … Continue reading “Winners, Cheaters Are NOT!”
When through fiery trials…
“When through fiery trials thy pathway shall lie, My grace, all-sufficient, shall be thy supply. The flame shall not hurt thee; I only design thy dross to consume, and thy gold to refine.” -“How Firm a Foundation” (Public Domain) Discovering a spouse’s infidelity certainly qualifies as a “fiery trial!” I love the following line about … Continue reading “When through fiery trials…”
Happy Reformation Day! 500 Year Anniversary.
“Here I stand; I can do no other.” – Martin Luther On this day five hundred years ago, Martin Luther famously nailed his 95 theses to the doors of Wittenberg church. Many mark this as the beginning of the Protestant Reformation(s). One man and his sincerely held convictions transformed the world. October 31st, 1517 was … Continue reading “Happy Reformation Day! 500 Year Anniversary.”
My Birthday
I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made…. -Psalm 139:14a, NIV Today is my birthday. It is a day that was put into question roughly five years ago. Suicide was something I considered in my darkest moments but never, thankfully, acted upon. This blog would never have existed if I had given into … Continue reading “My Birthday”