130,000+ Views In 2016

With the end of another calendar year, I like to share an update about how Divorce Minister: Taking Adultery Seriously is doing. This past year the blog experienced: -130,000+ Views -Nearly 60,000 unique visitors -Traffic from over 170 different nations covering most of the globe! Most of the visitors here are new visitors. Apparently, the need is … Continue reading “130,000+ Views In 2016”

I am happier divorced.

Christians, pastors, and Christian counselors often paint divorce as such a horrible thing. It is as if divorced people are viewed as almost permanently damaged or forever morally tainted by virtue of being divorced.  Guess what? I have a confession to make… Divorcing my cheating first wife did not doom me to a sad existence … Continue reading “I am happier divorced.”

Spiritual Principle: Hope Comes As A Baby

“Today in the town of David a Savior has been born to you; he is the Messiah, the Lord. This will be a sign to you: You will find a baby wrapped in cloths and lying in a manger.” – Luke 2:11-12, NIV When Jesus–God’s son–was born, he was not born into this world as … Continue reading “Spiritual Principle: Hope Comes As A Baby”

And then it was just another day.

And then it was just another day. Yesterday marked the anniversary of my divorce decree. The strange thing is that I had completely forgotten about that fact until today. In fact, I only remembered because I got engaged to Mrs. DM the day following my year anniversary of the divorce. I saw a picture reminding … Continue reading “And then it was just another day.”

Settled in mind and heart

When I was in the heat of my marriage dissolution, I remember constantly being thrown off by the email responses I received from my (now) ex-wife. They would make me particularly upset when she continued to insist on pinning the fault for the marriage ending on me. Looking back now, I can see how out … Continue reading “Settled in mind and heart”

Better Days Ahead!

The Lord blessed the latter days of Job more than his beginning…. -Job 42:12a, NASB So much is done within the Church to reinforce fears concerning divorce. Even a ministry I generally recommend for those divorcing a cheating spouse, DivorceCare, does this to some extent. They certainly do not encourage divorce–even when, I believe, that … Continue reading “Better Days Ahead!”

Painful Absence

You have removed lover and friend far from me; My acquaintances are in darkness. -Psalm 88:18, NASB Holidays can be especially painful when you find yourself recently bereft of your spouse or long-time partner. Honestly, some of the most painful parts of my marriage ending was adjusting to no longer having my spouse with me … Continue reading “Painful Absence”