Yesterday, I came across an interesting article about forgiveness and trauma care from a mental health provider, Anastasia Pollock, LCMHC. It is entitled: “Why I Don’t Use the Word ‘Forgiveness’ in Trauma Therapy” Pollock writes, As soon as I say, “You don’t have to forgive,” the person usually breathes a sigh of relief. Once we … Continue reading “Trauma of adultery and resource reframing “forgiveness””
Category: Forgiveness
We are actually commanded to judge!
I meant that you are not to associate with anyone who claims to be a believer yet indulges in sexual sin…. It isn’t my responsibility to judge outsiders, but it certainly is your responsibility to judge those inside the church who are sinning. -I Corinthians 5:11a, 12, NLT Adultery certainly qualifies as sexual sin. What does the … Continue reading “We are actually commanded to judge!”
Nineveh’s lesson on forgiveness
“The people of Nineveh will stand up against this generation on judgment day and condemn it, for they repented of their sins at the preaching of Jonah. Now someone greater than Jonah is here–but you refuse to repent.” -Matthew 12:41, NLT Does repentance seem necessary for forgiveness (and salvation) according to these words from Jesus … Continue reading “Nineveh’s lesson on forgiveness”
Another “Christian” piece of advice…
You need to know that Alexander,the jeweler, has done me great harm. May our Lord give him what he deserves for all he has done. -2 Timothy 4:14, TPT “Are you praying for her (him)?” asks a concerned Christian. This is the “magic bullet” of spiritual healing. Maybe you heard of it? The idea is if you pray … Continue reading “Another “Christian” piece of advice…”
A forgiveness related hope
When Joseph’s brothers saw that their father was dead, they said, “What if Joseph holds a grudge against us and pays us back for all the wrongs we did to him?” -Genesis 50:15, NIV His brothers literally sold him into slavery and led their father to believe he was dead. Joseph was truly WRONGED by his … Continue reading “A forgiveness related hope”
Did Jesus give Himself the gift of forgiveness?
God exalted him to his own right hand as Prince and Savior that he might bring Israel to repentance and forgive their sins. -Acts 5:31, NIV Did Jesus choose forgiveness as a gift he gave himself? Or did it benefit us? The obvious answer is Jesus’ forgiveness benefits us. That is the point. He canceled out sin … Continue reading “Did Jesus give Himself the gift of forgiveness?”
Enemy or Pharisee?
And whoever compels you to go one mile, go with him two. -Matthew 5:41, NKJV In the same way, on the outside you appear to people as righteous but on the inside you are full of hypocrisy and wickedness. -Matthew 23:28, NIV When dealing with a “Christian” cheater, another level of complexity is placed on Christians … Continue reading “Enemy or Pharisee?”
Godly forgiveness is NOT cheap forgiveness
Therefore if you bring your gift to the altar, and there remember that your brother has something against you, leave your gift there before the altar, and go your way. First be reconciled to your brother, and then come and offer your gift. -Matthew 5:23-24, NKJV “God forgives me. So what’s your problem?!” -Cheater Does … Continue reading “Godly forgiveness is NOT cheap forgiveness”
Signs of a really repentant person per Author Chuck Swindoll
“…you won’t be defensive or angry or proud or bitter. A contrite heart makes no demands and has no expectations. Broken and humble people are simply grateful to be alive.” -Charles Swindoll, A Man of Passion and Destiny: David, Nashville, TN: Thomas Nelson, 1997, pp207. The question about how to tell if a cheater is … Continue reading “Signs of a really repentant person per Author Chuck Swindoll”
A resource on narcissists by Dr. Les Carter
One of the biggest things I learned through my divorce was how we walk in a world with people who lack empathy on a pathological level. They lie without remorse. Psychology labels them with a variety of labels (I am not a psychologist). Today, I just want to pass along a resource for those who … Continue reading “A resource on narcissists by Dr. Les Carter”