Hello DM, I’m glad I found your website. It’s refreshing to hear I have an out when dealing with my wife’s adultery. D-Day is Jan. 23 for me so it’s pretty fresh. I have a question about the 1 Cor. 13:5 passage about not keeping a record of wrongs. Nowadays, the way I … Continue reading “Dear DM, What about love keeping no record of wrongs?”
Category: Forgiveness
Forgiveness and grace for cheaters? Sure, as long as…
Dear friends, if we deliberately continue sinning after we have received knowledge of the truth, there is no longer any sacrifice that will cover these sins. There is only the terrible expectation of God’s judgment and the raging fire that will consume his enemies. -Hebrews 10:26-27, NLT Cheaters ARE eligible for forgiveness and grace as long … Continue reading “Forgiveness and grace for cheaters? Sure, as long as…”
Dear Divorce Minister, Any advice would help.
Dear Divorce Minister, My husband and I have only been married a year. I felt like we had a good relationship. He was my best friend. We communicated well, we were very loving, caring, and supportive to each other, yet almost immediately after we were married I had a gut feeling that something wasn’t right. … Continue reading “Dear Divorce Minister, Any advice would help.”
Even God requires repentance before welcoming back!
“If you want to come back, O Israel, you must really come back to me. You must get rid of your stinking sin paraphernalia and not wander away from me anymore.” -Jeremiah 4:1 (from 1-2 block), THE MESSAGE This verse comes on the heals of the chapter where God declares His divorce of Israel over … Continue reading “Even God requires repentance before welcoming back!”
Cheater, stop trying to blame your partner! Focus on YOUR part!!
“She will just keep this hanging over my head. I don’t think she will ever really forgive me.” -Cheater to pastor Cheater, focus on YOUR own part! A wise pastor and Christian counselor will not take this bait to bash the faithful spouse. Instead, he or she will remind the cheater that he only controls … Continue reading “Cheater, stop trying to blame your partner! Focus on YOUR part!!”
Mailbag: What is our role?
Pastor David, I did want to ask your opinion/insight on something else if you don’t mind. I am struggling with what our role is as Christians when it comes to this sexual sin that is permeating our society and destroying marriages. I don’t want to let my pain blind me from the truth of the … Continue reading “Mailbag: What is our role?”
Is the cheater seeking forgiveness or really just accountability?
Then David confessed to Nathan, “I have sinned against the Lord.” Nathan replied, “Yes, but the Lord has forgiven you, and you won’t die for this sin. Nevertheless, because you have shown utter contempt for the word of the Lord by doing this, your child will die.” -2 Samuel 12:13-14, NLT Is the cheater asking for forgiveness or simply seeking to avoid … Continue reading “Is the cheater seeking forgiveness or really just accountability?”
Weitnauer apology to Ravi Zacharias sexting scandal alleged victim Lori Anne Thompson
An excellent apology was made public by an RZIM employee recently. His name is Carson Weitnauer. It is posted on his blog, Reasons for God (apology found here). I encourage you to go visit the website and read the apology for yourself. It is well-done in my opinion. He makes it publicly as this is a … Continue reading “Weitnauer apology to Ravi Zacharias sexting scandal alleged victim Lori Anne Thompson”
Some sick people poke you for a reaction. Don’t give them the satisfaction!
A person without self-control is like a city with broken-down walls. -Proverbs 25:28, NLT For God will never give you the spirit of fear, but the Holy Spirit who gives you mighty power, love, and self-control. -2 Timothy 1:7, TPT Some cheaters thrive off of provoking the faithful spouse to anger. I believe this. It … Continue reading “Some sick people poke you for a reaction. Don’t give them the satisfaction!”
A real apology or a real manipulation?
Yesterday, I stumbled over an excellent article about the art of making good apologies plus how to recognize non-apologies. The article is: “How to Recognize—and Respond to—a Fake Apology: Before accepting an apology, you first have to determine if it’s genuine.” By Molly Howes, Ph.D. I recommend reading it. This both helps in spotting manipulations … Continue reading “A real apology or a real manipulation?”