Category: Forgiveness

The verse does not say…

 Dearly beloved, avenge not yourselves, but rather give place unto wrath: for it is written, “Vengeance is mine; I will repay,” saith the Lord. -Romans 12:19, KJV I find this verse instructive as it comes to forgiving cheaters. First, it tells us to release to God our fantasies of taking revenge on our abusers. Many … Continue reading “The verse does not say…”

Podcast resource on topic of biblical forgiveness

Forgiveness is such a tricky subject to handle as it comes to marital infidelity. Many Christians–including pastors and counselors–get it wrong as to what it means to forgive. Today, I am including a link to a recent podcast by Julie Roys, The Roys Report, as she explores the topic of biblical forgiveness: “What Does Forgiveness Really … Continue reading “Podcast resource on topic of biblical forgiveness”

Stop digging up those old “bones.”

“Forget the former things;     do not dwell on the past. See, I am doing a new thing!” -Isaiah 43:18-19a, NIV Sometimes ruminating on the past just inflicts more suffering.  Not doing this is easier said than done, of course. We do need space to tell our stories plus acknowledge what happened actually happened. That is … Continue reading “Stop digging up those old “bones.””

Dispersed Anger

God is an honest judge.    He is angry with the wicked every day. -Psalm 7:11, NLT Oddly enough, my anger was often directed to other bad actors in my divorce instead of the prime character–my (now) ex-wife. Certainly, I had good reason to feel angry towards those others. It was actually healthy to feel this feeling … Continue reading “Dispersed Anger”

Nothing like THOSE “you are doing the Christian thing wrong” lectures…

Got to love those “you are doing the ‘Christian’ thing wrong” lectures from the naive Christian leaders or cheater apologists! Right?! These lectures are really simply another way people blame faithful spouses for their marriages imploding and–sometimes–even for the cheating. It is disgusting. They might take the form of blaming you for not “forgiving” well. … Continue reading “Nothing like THOSE “you are doing the Christian thing wrong” lectures…”

False Grace: Tullian Tchividjian starts new church

Tullian Tchividjian, grandson of Rev. Billy Graham, is back in the news today. Apparently, he is starting a new church. This is the same person who was caught cheating on his wife with a congregant and being removed from a prominent Presbyterian church over this moral failure (see here). He found another job with a … Continue reading “False Grace: Tullian Tchividjian starts new church”

Even God’s forgiveness requires a response from the forgiven!

Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. -Colossians 3:13, NIV “If you forgive anyone’s sins, they are forgiven. If you do not forgive them, they are not forgiven.” -John 20:23, NLT If we confess our sins, he is faithful … Continue reading “Even God’s forgiveness requires a response from the forgiven!”

Beware of power struggles!

 But Jesus called them together and said, “You know that the rulers in this world lord it over their people, and officials flaunt their authority over those under them.” -Matthew 20:25, NLT “You will just keep that [her cheating] over her head forever [if she stayed married to you].” -Cheater apologist Some people view all relationships … Continue reading “Beware of power struggles!”