This morning I woke up to an email from Chump Lady. She sent me an insightful comment made on her blog post “Quit Waiting for an Apology.“ Here is what Nyra, who left the comment, wrote: Christians are easy targets for narcissistic people to manipulate & gaslight: Christians are to forgive someone 70×70 times therefore… … Continue reading “Christians As Easy Targets For Narcissists”
Category: Forgiveness
Letter Published Calling Tullian Tchividjian To Repentance
Recently, a letter was published calling fallen ex-pastor, Tullian Tchividjian, to repentance. Without going into great detail, Tullian Tchividjian is the disgraced grandson of Rev. Billy Graham who lost his job as a pastor as well as his ministerial credentials due to more than one instance of marital infidelity (some of my posts here, here, and … Continue reading “Letter Published Calling Tullian Tchividjian To Repentance”
A Religious Cheater–Tullian Tchividjian…again
What shall we say then? Shall we continue in sin that grace may abound? Certainly not! How shall we who died to sin live any longer in it? -Romans 6:1-2, NKJV Tullian Tchividjian, Reverend Billy Graham’s disgraced grandson, is back in the news. More details are coming out about his infidelity. See story here and … Continue reading “A Religious Cheater–Tullian Tchividjian…again”
Peace NOT Friendship
If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone. -Romans 12:18, NIV Notice what this verse does and does not say: 1. It DOES NOT say–or set the expectation–that we are friends with everyone. 2. It DOES say–i.e. acknowledges–that peace with some people is impossible. These are very important truths … Continue reading “Peace NOT Friendship”
Love & Divorce
This is what the LORD says: “Where is your mother’s certificate of divorce with which I sent her away? …Because of your sins you were sold; because of your transgressions your mother was sent away. -Isaiah 50:1a,c, NIV Is divorcing a spouse incompatible with loving a spouse? In other words, do you have to hate … Continue reading “Love & Divorce”
Cheater-Speak: “Well, I never said anything bad about you to our friends.”
“Well, I never said anything bad about you to our friends.” -Cheater Show of virtual “hands:” Who has heard a version of this from his or her cheater? I “see” those “hands.” Permit me to share a couple observations of what is happening when a cheater speaks like this: 1. This is a damage control … Continue reading “Cheater-Speak: “Well, I never said anything bad about you to our friends.””
Learning from Jonah: Do NOT Build a “Smiting Shelter!”
Jonah had gone out and sat down at a place east of the city. There he made himself a shelter, sat in its shade and waited to see what would happen to the city. – Jonah 4:5, NIV And so, Jonah built himself a shelter to watch God, hopefully, smite the Ninevites. He made … Continue reading “Learning from Jonah: Do NOT Build a “Smiting Shelter!””
Cheaters are not “winners.”
So he swore an oath to him, selling his birthright to Jacob. Then Jacob gave Esau some bread and some lentil stew. He ate and drank, and then got up and left. So Esau despised his birthright. -Genesis 25:33-34, NIV My integrity is not for sale. It is very precious to me. If I break my promise, this valuing … Continue reading “Cheaters are not “winners.””
On Hearing God Amidst Infidelity Madness
For his Spirit joins with our spirit to affirm that we are God’s children. -Romans 8:16, NLT So, you have discovered that your spouse has been unfaithful. He (or she) cheated on you and hid the double life with copious lies for months and possibly years. Now, you must decide what you do with new information. What does … Continue reading “On Hearing God Amidst Infidelity Madness”
Christians, you don’t have to be friends with your cheating ex! Really.
“Woe to you, teachers of the law and Pharisees, you hypocrites! You travel over land and sea to win a single convert, and when you have succeeded, you make them twice as much a child of hell as you are.” -Matthew 23:15, NIV Public Service Announcement: Faithful spouses, you don’t have to become BFFs with … Continue reading “Christians, you don’t have to be friends with your cheating ex! Really.”