Category: Forgiveness

A Conspicuous Absence In Pastoral Training!

If you spent even a little time looking over the required curriculum for M.Div. students at most evangelical seminaries, you will notice a heavy emphasis on Biblical languages and Scripture exegesis. In my former denomination, this emphasis is reflected in their ordaining process, which pushes candidates to memorize Scripture for each doctrine of interest to the … Continue reading “A Conspicuous Absence In Pastoral Training!”

Catchy Tune About Recovering…”It Don’t Hurt Like It Used To”

While I do not condone or recommend using alcohol to deal with heart-break, I appreciate some of the lessons this catchy tune from Billy Currington highlights about recovering.  Two points I particularly appreciate: The singer refuses to lie about the pain.  The pain and grief is worse if we refused to acknowledge the obvious: It hurts … Continue reading “Catchy Tune About Recovering…”It Don’t Hurt Like It Used To””

Sick Secrets…

On my commute into work, I listen to a local radio station that dispenses relationship advice. This segment on KS95 is called “Love ’em or List ’em.” Today’s situation involved cheating and the advice given was mostly awful. A quick recap of the situation: Angela is the caller. She just got engaged but is sick … Continue reading “Sick Secrets…”

Can you live with the lies?

All day long you plot destruction.     Your tongue cuts like a sharp razor;     you’re an expert at telling lies. You love evil more than good     and lies more than truth. -Psalm 52:2-3, NLT I am a firm believer when it comes to full disclosure to the faithful spouse regarding what the cheater did. Darkness is only … Continue reading “Can you live with the lies?”

What was the most confusing thing about the experience?

What was the most confusing part of the experience? So much is confusing and difficult when discovering a spouse has been unfaithful. So called “Christian” advice to forgive and forget in an effort to “save” the marriage is a big piece that adds to the confusion of the day. Another candidate for most confusing is the … Continue reading “What was the most confusing thing about the experience?”

Cheaters Are NOT Martyrs But Rather Aggressors!

And don’t you realize that if a man joins himself to a prostitute, he becomes one body with her? For the Scriptures say, “The two are united into one.” –I Corinthians 6:16, NLT Cheaters seem to enjoy playing the “martyr card.” They claim their spouse did not give them enough sex or emotional attention. “We … Continue reading “Cheaters Are NOT Martyrs But Rather Aggressors!”

Even God’s forgiveness of us is NOT one-sided.

  Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. -Colossians 3:13, NIV “If you forgive anyone’s sins, they are forgiven. If you do not forgive them, they are not forgiven.” -John 20:23, NLT If we confess our sins, he is … Continue reading “Even God’s forgiveness of us is NOT one-sided.”

A Most Reasonable Expectation

“…let her therefore put away her whoredoms out of her sight, and her adulteries from between her breasts….” -Hosea 2:2b, KJV Reasonable Expectation: A faithful spouse should expect a cheating spouse–whether emotional and/or physical–will demonstrate that the affair is completely over and steps have been taken to fix the character flaw in the cheater that … Continue reading “A Most Reasonable Expectation”

Fellowship With Darkness?!

For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness? -2 Corinthians 6:14b, NIV Wicked or evil people may sometimes appear–or even be–good in some settings. This truth is well-illustrated in a recent interview with the 105-year-old secretary of Nazi Germany’s propagandist, Joseph Goebbels (see here). Adultery is … Continue reading “Fellowship With Darkness?!”