Category: Forgiveness

“Have you forgiven [Cheater]?”

“Have you forgiven your ex-wife?” -Inquiring Christian Let’s assume this person has not already passed judgment and condemned you as “bitter.” In other words, they are asking this question in good faith and out of genuine love for you. My response would be: What do you mean by “forgiven?” The answer to this question will … Continue reading ““Have you forgiven [Cheater]?””

Cheap Cheater forgiveness teaching addressed

Therefore if you bring your gift to the altar, and there remember that your brother has something against you, leave your gift there before the altar, and go your way. First be reconciled to your brother, and then come and offer your gift. -Matthew 5:23-24, NKJV “God forgives me. So what’s your problem?!” -Cheater Does … Continue reading “Cheap Cheater forgiveness teaching addressed”

Cheater concern about you never “getting over it.”

“If we stayed married, you’d always hold this over my head,” says Cheater. Cheater Concern About You Never “Getting Over It” What I find interesting about this response is how the Cheater shows he or she understands the infidelity has forever impacted the marriage. They understand that they cannot go back to how things were. … Continue reading “Cheater concern about you never “getting over it.””

Preying on your desperation

After discovering infidelity, I bet many of us went into overdrive to figure out how to “save” our marriages. It is the rare faithful spouse who refuses to demean themselves further by chasing after the cheater (and the marriage) immediately. Especially, as a Christian, I think it is rare to level consequences at the start … Continue reading “Preying on your desperation”

Resource on (NOT) “having” to forgive

An alert reader sent me an article yesterday on the topic of forgiveness. It is entitled, “Do I Have To Forgive? (The Answer Might Surprise You).” The article tackles the abusive use of the forgiveness commands by Jesus and points out the consistent need for repentance for godly forgiveness (as I teach on this blog). … Continue reading “Resource on (NOT) “having” to forgive”

Repentance required to avoid Hell

The Lord is not slow in keeping his promise, as some understand slowness. Instead he is patient with you, not wanting anyone to perish, but everyone to come to repentance. -2 Peter 3:9, NIV While this verse is more about Christ’s second coming, I figure it is a good verse to talk about end things in general. … Continue reading “Repentance required to avoid Hell”

Not nice Jesus words!

Did you know Jesus called his religious “opponents” names?! He called them out as “hypocrites,” “blind guides,” and “fools” (see Mt 23:13-39). Do those names sound like “blessings” and not curses? Or do they sound like a frank, truthful labeling of bad behaviors? I have little patience for religious people who sit in judgment over … Continue reading “Not nice Jesus words!”