A cheerful heart is good medicine, but a crushed spirit dries up the bones. -Proverbs 17:22, NIV Much of the suffering faithful spouses experience is spiritual in nature. Writing this blog for a couple of years, the questions I encounter center around deep spiritual pain and confusion. These are not so much the nuts and … Continue reading “Spiritual trauma best addressed by faithful pastors”
Category: Grief
Healing comes in time. It does.
Blessed are they that mourn: for they shall be comforted. -Matthew 5:4, KJV Today, I was struck by the progress I have made in my healing journey. This came to mind as I was listening to someone teach on leaving an abuser. Fresh off my divorce, this teaching would have been too painful for me. … Continue reading “Healing comes in time. It does.”
Loss of “normal”
18 Remember ye not the former things, neither consider the things of old. 19 Behold, I will do a new thing; now it shall spring forth; shall ye not know it? I will even make a way in the wilderness, and rivers in the desert. -Isaiah 43:18-19, KJV When the news broke for me, I remember driving … Continue reading “Loss of “normal””
Blessed are those who embrace mourning!
Blessed are they that mourn: for they shall be comforted. -Matthew 5:4, KJV Divorcing a cheater comes with tremendous amounts of loss. Anyone who has experienced such a divorce does not need to be told this. They have lived it. When I look at this beatitude from Jesus’ Sermon on the Mount, J translated … Continue reading “Blessed are those who embrace mourning!”
How do you put a price on that?
…whoremongers and adulterers God will judge. -Hebrews 13:4b, KJV How do you put a price on that? Some Christians are so busy blaming a faithful spouse that they fail to see the incredible loses this individual has unjustly endured. They do not “get it.” In the evangelical culture, many of us were raised to value … Continue reading “How do you put a price on that?”
Song to encourage
But they that wait upon the LORD shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings as eagles; they shall run, and not be weary; and they shall walk, and not faint. -Isaiah 40:31, KJV Dealing with abandonment and infidelity is exhausting. One of the songs I would return to for encouragement during the dark season of my … Continue reading “Song to encourage”
Taking care of self
When I was going through the deep valley of separation, adultery discovery, and divorce, I had to make conscience decisions to take care of myself. The grief is that extreme. For me, I had to remind myself to eat. If I did not do this, then I would not have eaten at all during that … Continue reading “Taking care of self”
Settled in truth and reality
When I was in the heat of my marriage dissolution, I remember constantly being thrown off by the email responses I received from my (now) ex-wife. They would make me particularly upset when she continued to insist on pinning the fault for the marriage ending on me. Looking back now, I can see how out … Continue reading “Settled in truth and reality”
Seven years, today.
Another anniversary. Today marks the seventh anniversary of my divorce becoming final. I have now been divorced from longer than I was married to my first wife. I still have memories, yet it feels like a lifetime away. The hardest memories are the fond ones as they remind me of what was lost. Yet, I … Continue reading “Seven years, today.”
Still a shock.
“And all his sons and all his daughters rose up to comfort him; but he refused to be comforted….” -Genesis 37:35, KJV In two days, it will have been seven years since my divorce was officially made final. Hard to believe it has been that long. God has transformed my life since that sad day; … Continue reading “Still a shock.”